This has been so much fun!
I have loved interacting with you throughout this month on three of the most important aspects of success: results, relationships, and resilience. Keeping these three pillars in view will help you get your best results in a distracting world.
Last week, on IGTV, I had the opportunity to speak with parent Coach Tyler Drouet of Simplify Parenting about helping your kids move from chaos to order with time management tips for kids with ADHD. Then, I was privileged to welcome my friend September James to our community to share three tips on building community while building your business. Check these interviews out if you missed them!
Now, onto this week’s topic! This week, we have turned our attention to the importance of building relationships.
As a Licensed Professional Counselor, I have had the privilege of having a front row seat to the self-concepts, hopes & dreams, and journeys of people on a deep level.
Among one of the most profound impressions I have gained over time is the monumental importance of our family relationships in shaping who we are and who we believe ourselves to be.
Interpersonal neurobiologist Dr. Dan Siegel says that the wiring of our brain is literally created as we interact with those in our lives. The interactions in our relationships make us who we are.
Dr. Henry Cloud says it this way, “The brain runs on three things: oxygen, glucose, and relationships.”
Even though they are so important, relationships can be one of the first aspects of your life to suffer when you become overwhelmed.
Don’t let that happen to you.
Then, use the Routine Worksheet to build the best ideas into your routines.
At times, simply having something on your calendar helps you move what matters most into your life. As Steven Covey said, “Don’t prioritize your schedule. Schedule your priorities.” Allow relationships to get on the calendar.
You may be thinking, I will pay better attention to my relationships after I launch my business.
What if I told you that you didn’t have to wait?
The year that Evan launched his new business, not only was he able to bring his dreams to life, but he also told me he felt more aware of the needs of his wife as he used the Think Zones exercise in his Think Time Planner.
Similarly, the year her husband founded a church in a new city–an entrepreneurial endeavor–Mary felt the freedom with her Think Time Planner “for the first time to put my kids on my to-do list. I don’t know why this never occurred to me before!”
It is simply not enough to “get things done” while your relationships remain on the back burner. You need to get the right things done–including being present with the people in your life.
Let me remind you: you are not a machine.
You are a human BEing designed to DO important things. Make time for those who matter to you–even in busy seasons. Your spouse did not covenant “for better or for worse” to be put on hold. And, your children need your attention to thrive.
Don’t settle for short-term success in one area of life.
Take time to Think Time and get more time for what matters most–in your professional life and in your personal life.
Next week, we’ll discuss how you can maintain your vitality for the long haul as we discuss developing resilience.
How have your relationships shaped who you are? Would you comment below?
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