“I HAVE TO Get It All Done Now!” – on Internal Locus of Control

Last time, we looked at “upping” our internal satisfaction with our accomplishments by starting with the idea that it all will not get done today.  When we start our days with this acceptance, our minds immediately get to work to prioritize what must be done.

Start with accepting the disappointment that it will not all get done.  Then, prioritize what is most important.

And, rest assured each day that what is accomplished is the most important.


Let’s say, however, that you have completed the Dream and Decide phases of Think Time, and you legitimately have a pile of to-dos that has to get done immediately, or the consequences are dire.

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What do you do then?

The next several blogs will focus on answering this question–the Think Time way.  Just remember: #thinkbeforeyoustrive.


To look at this situation strategically, we will use the above sentence as our guide.  “I Have to Get It All Done Now.”

In this blog, we’ll focus on the two little words “have to.”

For ten years, the words “have to” have been banned from our family’s vocabulary after reading a book called QBQ by John Miller.

This thought-changing little book dissects the two little words “have to” and unmasks all of their terribleness.

These two little words steal life, opportunity, success, happiness, and freedom from so many of us.

They immediately frame our experience as that of a victim instead of a person making choices that impacts our own lives

They render us powerless instead of powerful.

They make us less creative instead of more creative.

They steal our hope and offer instead feelings of despair.




Only if we let them.


Whether we know it or not, we have a choice when we encounter the words “have to.”

When we find the words “have to” in our lives, we can render these powerful words powerless with one simple trick.  

Change “have to” to “choose to.”  

This one act puts you back in the driver’s seat of your own life, and allows you to evaluate your decisions from the right point of view.


Your thoughts, feelings, attitudes, actions, and boundaries are “in your circle.”  They are your choice.  You begin to see yourself as responsible for your successes and your failures.

You begin to develop what psychologists call an “internal locus of control.”

When your language reflects this, your thoughts and actions follow.  Opportunities for change and growth appear where they were previously hidden.  Hope is restored.  Growth and change take up residence in your heart.

In Smarter Faster Better, Charles Duhigg writes, “People with an internal locus of control tend to earn more money, have more friends, stay married longer, and report greater professional success and satisfaction.”

No longer will you feel powerless when you have a pile of to-dos just staring at you.

The next time you feel “under the pile,” listen to your language and try this simple tweak.

Change your “have tos” to “choose tos” and see what happens.

Then, please let us know how it went in the comments below!


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