Last week, I talked about how much work it takes to create clarity and calm, and I shared the example of cleaning up my kids’ closets.
This week I want to talk about the hard work it takes to not put the effort in to create clarity in our lives.
When I don’t have clarity in an area such as a closet, I can get by for a little while without feeling the effects of it. However, it catches up with me. And it usually catches up with me when it really matters.
It’s usually when all six of us are trying to get out the door, and we can’t find that one shoe.
Or all the categories in my kids drawers are flowing into each other so they can’t really identify and access what they need quickly.
These few minutes didn’t seem to matter when nothing big is happening, but you know how it is… things aren’t a big deal until they’re a big deal.
Do you know what I mean?
It’s usually those five minutes that makes you awkwardly late for something so super special!! You would never have consciously traded those priceless five minutes of watching your niece perform her dance routine or arriving early to grab the opportunity to chat with the CEO before the meeting…
You would not have thought… “I choose to be disorganized and unintentional over those things.”
But there it is. That’s exactly what happened. You missed it. You can’t get it back. The opportunity was there, and now it is gone.
I think the same holds true for how we organize our time. We can overcommit for a while, and we don’t feel the effects. Our life becomes like a messy sock drawer. We just don’t know exactly where things go. Sometimes we can find a lucky match. But sometimes we can’t. And we don’t always know when we will slip by by the skin of our teeth and when we will fall flat on our face. :/
Because we didn’t put the time and effort into creating clarity, we’re just really shooting from the hip—not really being intentional about the results of our actions.
This may work for a while, but eventually the effects will show.
- Our work maybe come sloppy.
- Our health may decline.
- People who would open up to us and share was going on in their lives may not simply because of our lack of eye contact and perceived disinterest…since we are consumed with being overwhelmed.
- The nutrition, rest, and exercise that we need to thrive may not be a part of our regular routine.
- We may be doing the wrong thing at the wrong time or a good thing instead of the best thing.
This type of living leads to that feeling of being under an endless pile of to dos. A lot of work is being done, but because the high results activities are being done first, there’s just not a lot to show for all the effort it’s been put into the activities.
This type of living is exhausting.
It’s reactive instead of proactive.
It simply does not produce the results anyone wants.
We would not choose to do this hard work again because of the fruit it did not bear.
We don’t see fruit.
We are just exhausted. And there is little or nothing to show for it.
It is a lot of work.
But, it does not lead to peace.
And, it is not productive.
It’s just hard work.
It’s the result of putting in the hard work—the wrong way.
It doesn’t have to be this way, but for so many people it is.
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The process guides you to put the hard work in to develop clarity so that you can have peace and productivity after the hard work of creating clarity.
Why keep doing hard work that only causes you to spin your wheels…exhausted and getting nowhere!?!
There is a better way, and it can be learned.
You do not have to live another day reacting, working hard, and getting nowhere.
Are you ready for a change?
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