“I put my kids on my to-do list!”

This has been so much fun!

I have loved interacting with you throughout this month on three of the most important aspects of success: results, relationships, and resilience. Keeping these three pillars in view will help you get your best results in a distracting world.

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Last week, on IGTV, I had the opportunity to speak with parent Coach Tyler Drouet of Simplify Parenting about helping your kids move from chaos to order with time management tips for kids with ADHD. Then, I was privileged to welcome my friend September James to our community to share three tips on building community while building your business. Check these interviews out if you missed them!

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Now, onto this week’s topic! This week, we have turned our attention to the importance of building relationships.

As a Licensed Professional Counselor, I have had the privilege of having a front row seat to the self-concepts, hopes & dreams, and journeys of people on a deep level.

Among one of the most profound impressions I have gained over time is the monumental importance of our family relationships in shaping who we are and who we believe ourselves to be.

Interpersonal neurobiologist Dr. Dan Siegel says that the wiring of our brain is literally created as we interact with those in our lives. The interactions in our relationships make us who we are.

Dr. Henry Cloud says it this way, “The brain runs on three things: oxygen, glucose, and relationships.”

Even though they are so important, relationships can be one of the first aspects of your life to suffer when you become overwhelmed.

Don’t let that happen to you.

Use the “to be” cloud in the Dream Phase of Think Time to brainstorm ways to stay connected to God, to your purpose, and to others. 

Then, use the Routine Worksheet to build the best ideas into your routines.

At times, simply having something on your calendar helps you move what matters most into your life. As Steven Covey said, “Don’t prioritize your schedule. Schedule your priorities.” Allow relationships to get on the calendar.

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You may be thinking, I will pay better attention to my relationships after I launch my business. 

What if I told you that you didn’t have to wait?

The year that Evan launched his new business, not only was he able to bring his dreams to life, but he also told me he felt more aware of the needs of his wife as he used the Think Zones exercise in his Think Time Planner.

Similarly, the year her husband founded a church in a new city–an entrepreneurial endeavor–Mary felt the freedom with her Think Time Planner “for the first time to put my kids on my to-do list. I don’t know why this never occurred to me before!”

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It is simply not enough to “get things done” while your relationships remain on the back burner. You need to get the right things done–including being present with the people in your life. 

Let me remind you: you are not a machine. 

You are a human BEing designed to DO important things. Make time for those who matter to you–even in busy seasons. Your spouse did not covenant “for better or for worse” to be put on hold. And, your children need your attention to thrive.

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Don’t settle for short-term success in one area of life.  

Take time to Think Time and get more time for what matters most–in your professional life and in your personal life.

Next week, we’ll discuss how you can maintain your vitality for the long haul as we discuss developing resilience.

How have your relationships shaped who you are? Would you comment below?

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This is Success

When you arrive at the end of your life and look back, what do you want to see?

Who do you want to have been?

What do you want to have done?

In essence, “What is success?”

This question was actually the opening line of my high school graduation speech. As I stood in front of those blazing lights, each word echoed through the stadium. I stepped out of that stadium to continue my quest of discovery.

I spent a couple decades on this quest– learning in college, attending a leadership internship in one state followed by a fellowship in another, working at a church then a non-profit, graduating with a masters from seminary and then serving patients recovering from brain injury as I gained my license as a professional counselor.

Lately, I have continued my quest nurturing and educating my kids for success in the next generation and serving you through Think Time.  As it turns out, I have been thinking about this and gathering great stuff for quite a long time…24 years!  I only wish I could find a copy of that speech!!! I would love to know what I came up with at 17!

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THREE QUALITIES OF SUCCESS YOU CAN’T AFFORD TO MISS

Today, I want to talk about three aspects of success that my planners and courses at Think Time are designed to support–qualities you can’t afford to miss in your life!

I’ll be talking about these for the next few weeks. It is my belief that each of these qualities is necessary to live a full and meaningful life–to truly succeed.

Results.

You may have judged success in the past based on what you did. Let me turn that on its head, and ask instead, not “What did you do?” but “What were your results?” You know from experience that it is possible to work hard from dawn until dusk and accomplish next to nothing–exhausting yourself and never making headway on your important goals. Sure, you were busy. You “got a lot done.” But, did you get results? Getting results is what moves the needle toward your dreams and goals.

Relationships.

It is simply not enough to “get things done” while your relationships remain on the back burner. You are not a machine. You are a human BEing designed to DO important things. Having great results without great relationships OR great relationships without great results is never enough. You have to have both to succeed. I believe that being connected to God, to others, and to your purpose are central to success. Relationships fuel your life.

Resilience.

Resilience keeps you in the game for the long haul. Anyone can sprint and have the appearance of success while things quietly crumble under the surface. Time tells the whole story. When you have the quality of resilience, you have the energy and the mindset to bounce back when set backs happen. You continue to create great work over the long haul.

The truly successful person consistently achieves great results and maintains great relationships over the long haul — continuously maintaining energy and focus for what matters most.

Over the next few weeks, I will discuss one quality a week to deep dive into the importance of each of these qualities in a little more depth.

I DON’T HAVE THAT KIND OF TIME.

As you read, you may nod your head in agreement while deep down you don’t believe you could ever have time to achieve that degree of success–you don’t even have time to think! In your life, there are simply not enough hours in the day.

Wow, I get it. Life is moving so faster than ever, and the distractions are endless! It can feel overwhelming to think about reaching for the stars.

However, what if I suggested that that you don’t have enough time NOT to pursue true success in your life? Would you agree that by not taking time to ensure that you are getting great results, building great relationships, and investing in your resilience, you don’t risk just losing hours…you could lose entire decades of your life! 

You don’t just risk losing hours…you could lose entire decades of your life.

Christine Wilson, LPC

If you don’t have a vision and strategy for getting results, you could spend your golden years working a dead-end job–just to pay the bills.

If you don’t have a vision and a strategy for your relationships, your kids’ childhood may be over before you have learned how to be present with them.

If you don’t have a vision for your health, you could achieve all of the above success but lose out on decades of your life to enjoy your success.

Please hear me. This is important.

The truth is you don’t have time to not to take time to clarify your vision and create a strategy for these three areas of success. 

And, remember, you don’t have to spend decades learning what you need to know to achieve this type of success. I have already done the work for you!

In my next Think Time Thursday e-mail, I will deep dive into getting results and share with you the approach I personally use to do less while achieving more. So, keep your eye out for that post. It will simply be called “how I do less to achieve more…”

In the mean time would you please take a moment to share your thoughts and comment on this blog?

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Thank you for your excitement and engagement in my mini-survey!

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Here’s what I have learned from you. When you think of two obstacles that get in the way of bringing your dreams to life, you need…

#1 more time

#2 improved focus.

These two needs are critical for your goals and are actually very, very intwined.

Let me explain.

Have you ever had a million things to do and the deadline was upon you? Do you remember that you “got it all done?” It may have seemed like a miracle, but things just “worked out.”

What happened?

Dr. Cal Newport, author of Deep Work, suggests that intensity can be traded for time.

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“Intensity can be traded for time.”

-Dr. Cal Newport

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That is, if you are more intense, you can accomplish more in less time. On the other hand, if you are low on energy or highly distracted and unfocused, you lose a LOT of time.

Dr. Newport’s formula could be described in mathematical terms as time = intensity

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time = intensity

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To get more time, up your intensity–just like you would when the pressure is on and the deadline is fast approaching.

To help you get traction with Dr. Newport’s idea, I want you to break it down another step.

What is intensity?

Intensity increases when you have increased energy and increased focus in a singular direction.

To explain this mathematically, I defining intensity as “energy x focus.”

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So, time = energy x focus

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This is key to overcoming overwhelm!

The next time you feel overwhelmed that you have so much to do and so little time, don’t get discouraged and wish for a day in the future in which you will have more time. Instead, get strategic. 

Ask yourself how you can boost your energy & your focus toward your goal for which you wish you had time?

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Don’t get discouraged. Get strategic!

-Christine Wilson, LPC

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With this formula, you can create practical strategies to find more time in your life for your dreams & goals.

Let’s start with one strategy to boosting your energy: self-care.

  • Sleep.
  • Exercise.
  • Nutrition.

If you are like many people, often, when you want to accomplish a big goal, self care is the first thing to go on the back burner. However, this unfortunately works against you–causing you to lose valuable time–just when you need it the most. The energy you gain from good sleep, exercise, and nutrition propels you toward your goals and allows you to accomplish your goals faster because you have more energy available.

When was the last time you were hoping for more time and decided you needed to go to bed earlier, build more exercise into your routine, or make wise eating decisions? Well, good job if you did. It is one of the most strategic ways to boost both your focus and your energy–which gives you more time.

Think about how many goals can remain on hold when you “don’t have the energy.” Don’t let this happen to you! Use this idea of taking time to boost your energy to your advantage so you can achieve your goals.

Next, let’s talk about a strategy to boost your focus.

Often, when people feel like they have a lot to do, they get a quick idea of generally where they want to go and just dive in. They think, “There is no time to lose. I need to start right now!” Well, this impulse is exactly the wrong way to boost your results.

Here’s why: When you dive into a project without clarity, you can waste your best energy on low-results activities that leave you empty for what matters most.

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When you dive into a project without clarity, you can waste your best energy on activities that don’t move the needle–leaving no energy left for what matters most.

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On the other hand, when you take time at the beginning to develop a crystal clear clarity around your goal…so clear you can feel it…research shows you are less vulnerable to distractions and your brain looks for ways to help you achieve your goal.

Being distracted SLOWS YOU DOWN. So, diving right in causes you to lose time in the long run. Stepping aside to develop a compelling clarity around your goal helps you get the best results by focusing your best efforts on high results-yielding activities.

It’s all over the research. When you paint such a clear picture of what you want that you can taste and see it, your focus is boosted and distractions simply do not hold as much sway. You GAIN time through focus.

This is why energy Think Time Planners and Courses help you improve your energy and boost your focus so you can find the time you need to succeed.

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You may be thinking that you don’t need to be strategic like this. You just need to try harder. Let’s talk about that. Unfortunately, trying harder will not help you achieve your goals. Here’s why.

There is a problem.

Research shows that 90% of the thoughts you have today are the same thoughts you had yesterday. This means that if you like the results you are getting, then, yes, do more of the same.

However, if you need to overcome an obstacle, change a pattern, or solve a problem, you need to think differently. How do you think different thoughts? You need a guide to help you think about your thinking. When you do this, Psychologist Dr. Henry Cloud says, “When you think about your thinking… Voila! New neural pathways begin to form!”

And, when new neural pathways begin to form, new ways of being and doing are born. New paths can be explored and experienced. Your changed behaviors and new solutions are on their way!

This is the big “why” behind taking time to think-time. Improved thinking leads to improved results.

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In my next post, I will be sharing another important strategy to include in your goal achievement toolbox. I will share a tip that can help you avoid losing up to 23 minutes every time this happens. It is so critical to your success and will help you maintain the boosted energy and focus you need to succeed. So, keep your eye on your inbox for this!

Cheering you on!

Christine

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How to “Manifest” Your Dreams and Goals

Have you heard people talk about the life-changing experience of “manifesting” their dreams and goals?

Well, I don’t exactly call it “manifestation,” nor do I credit an impersonal universe; however, I do believe people are getting great results.

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I’ll tell you why.

What a lot of people call “manifestation,” I call it “visual thinking”–visualizing your goals so clearly you can FEEL them.

There are great neurological reasons why this practice works.

I discovered the power of visualizing and drawing my completed goals over 5 years ago–conducting an educated experiment I was pretty sure would work…

And, it did.

Better than I could have imagined.

It frankly blew me away.

Here’s what I believe is happening neurologically and why it works.

Research shows that when you visualize something so clearly that you can FEEL it, your brain gets to work to bring that vision to a reality–and here’s the cool part–even when you are not consciously thinking about it!

So, think about going throughout your day. You have literally tens of thousands of inputs. You simply cannot respond to all of them if you are to effectively tune into your tasks and be productive. So, your brain has a built in design to help you filter through all of these inputs to make your decisions–all day long.

(Now, some of us ADHDers respond to external stimuli more than others, of course, but generally speaking, this is how it works.)

AND.

Guess how many decisions are made on a subconscious level!

95% of them!

WHOA!

That means that your brain is saying “pay attention to” or “ignore” before you even consciously process 95% of what is going on around you.

So, if you want to start noticing more opportunities each day to achieve your dreams and goals, you need a proven strategy to help your brain recognize them and bring them to your attention.

You need to help your brain help you!

You need to help your brain help you!

Christine Wilson, LPC

How do you do that?

Here are 3 steps you can take:

1. Set aside regular uninterrupted think-time. Starting with just 5 minutes can get you started. The brain is more receptive and effective when you are calm. When you are stressed, it moves into fight, flight or freeze. So, if you are writing your goals on the fly, you may as well kiss them goodbye. Instead, place your phone on airplane mode and “sit with yourself” for a moment as you allow what matters most to surface.

If you are writing your goals on the fly, you may as well kiss them goodbye.

Christine Wilson

2. Visualize what you want. Really experience your dreams. See yourself completing your goal. How do you feel? What do you see? Employ as many of your five senses as possible to clearly visualize this accomplished goal. When you experience your dreams and goals viscerally, it gets to work to bring them to reality. Research shows that your energy, focus, and motivation toward your goals increase with the practice of visualization.

3. Draw it, mind map it, use color, and add words. The visual thinking techniques I curated in Think Time Planner to help you apply the above two steps are drawing this vision in your Envision Box and concept-clouding (brainstorming) using your 5 Sensing Tool. This creative process engages your whole brain and really communicates to your brain in a way it can understand a whole lot better than writing words alone.

This three step process engages several parts of your brain: the visual processing part where ideas originate, the deeper parts of your brain where your emotions are stored, right brain creative thinking and left brain analytical thinking. That’s how Think Time Planner helps you use your whole brain strategy for achieving your dreams and goals. Promise me you’ll never plan with words alone again!?!?!? Please!!!

Promise me you’ll never plan with words alone again!?!?!? Please!!!

Christine Wilson, LPC

By clearly envisioning your dreams and goals, you have “primed” your brain to focus on what matters most in a distracting world, so in the midst of your crazy busy life you can increase your chances of noticing what you “intend” to notice.

With this type of clarity you can feel, you should begin to find more opportunities to live on purpose and achieve your goals–even in a distracting world. To literally BRING YOUR DREAMS TO LIFE.

By clearly envisioning your dreams and goals, you have “primed” your brain to focus on what matters most in a distracting world, so you are more likely to notice what you “intend” to notice.

Christine Wilson

Opportunities to fulfill your dreams and goals surround you. Help your brain help you by preparing it to focus on your dreams and goals amidst distraction.

Set aside uninterrupted think-time.

Visualize your completed goal.

Draw this in your Think Time Planner.

Stop missing out on the opportunities in your own life.

Get the thinking skills you need to fight distractions and get results.

In my signature course Cut Through the Noise, I teach my full Dream, Decide, Do, Review Process in depth to help you immediately apply the best purpose and productivity strategies for entrepreneurs with ADHD on the market today.

A little think-time can change your life.

Claim your seat today.

Don’t let distractions get your best attention. Learn the thinking skills you need to succeed. Enroll in my Signature Course today.

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You Don’t Have to Exhaust Yourself to Get Great Results

Do you ever work from dawn til dusk and still can’t find time for your dreams and goals?  

There is nothing worse than being exhausted after a long day of hard work and not having the results that you truly want to show for it.

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Here are a few things that can help you find time for your dreams and goals—even if you are already busy from dawn til dusk. 

1. Identify what your dreams and goals are. This may seem obvious, but you may be surprised that you only have a vague sense of what you want to accomplish–not clearly defined goals. To get more clarity, ask yourself, “What do I really want? At the end of this week (or month or quarter), what does wild success look like?” Choose up to three things that matter most to you and draw them in your Think Time Planner.

2. Evaluate what activities in your life support these dreams and goals. You do a lot of things in your life–checking off a million boxes. Did you know research shows you can check off a ton of boxes and still be unproductive? This step can prevent that from happening to you. I want you to identify which activities drive the results you want most. Separate these activities out. To achieve your dreams and goals, put them on your calendar first. If you can’t now because you have too many commitments…look ahead in your schedule and find your nearest available time block in the future. Write it in.

3. Find the time stealers. Most productivity planners skip this step. Don’t miss it! Goal achievement research suggests that if you stop with positive thinking alone, you can actually decrease your chances of achieving your goals. You may be over-optimistic and fail to take the measures to safeguard your goals. Don’t let this happen to you. Take a moment to identify what in you and what in your schedule could keep you from achieving the goals you desire. Now, create a plan around your obstacles. When you complete this last step, you are now on your way to looking back on your days with satisfaction, not regret.

“Think Time, for me, has been a lifesaver. We moved to a new city last year, are starting a new business, and have a two year old, a one year old, and a one month old. Think Time has taken my life from being absolutely insane to ordered, beautiful, and manageable. It has helped “up” my internal satisfaction level with what I accomplish each day. Super impressed with (and grateful for) this product.” 

Mary, pastors wife & mom of lots of young children (up to 5 now!)

Remember: you don’t have to exhaust yourself to get great results.

A little think-time could just change your life. 

Sincerely,

Christine

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Three Ways to Boost Your Energy

How often do you take time to consider how you can boost your energy?⠀

You may not often think of what a game-changer good energy is, but it is soooo important.  I love the way performance psychologist Jim Loehr says it: “Energy is life!”  If you have poor energy, you miss out on life itself.

Truly, the amount of energy you bring to a task or a relationship makes all of the difference. Yet in the busyness of your day to day life, you could be depleting this most valuable asset instead of restoring it.

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Think Time Planner helps you process your life so you can live on purpose in a distracting world–and part of living on purpose is boosting your energy so you can show up well.  By combining creative thinking and mindfulness with productivity, you can see your life in a more complete sphere so you can not only be confident are you getting more done in less time, but you can also be confident you are getting the RIGHT THINGS done.

Today, I want to show you how you can boost your energy levels with your Think Time Planner.

Think Time Creative Productivity Planner helps you find time for what matters most.

1 Get More Sleep.  Use the Review section to become mindful of what is working and what is not working as you seek to get more sleep. Then, use these insights to create your Dream Routine and time block this directly onto your weekly calendar. To add a visual boost, time block your sleep by coloring in those hours with a charcoal gray oil pastel or dry-brush paint black to claim them for sleep.  

2 Reduce Your Stress. When you have a lot of unresolved thoughts, your brain works overtime to find a place to put them.  It can be exhausting to have so much on your mind. That’s why I created the Daily Planner ThinkPad. Every morning when you wake up, use your Daily Planner to get on paper everything that is on your mind and create a clear plan for your day so you can reduce your stress and move into your day with calm confidence. (Learn more techniques to reduce your stress in my course From Chaos to Confidence.)

3 Get on the Move.  Building exercise into your routine is a keystone habit to boost your energy.  Each quarter, use your “Health” Concept Cloud to mind map all of your ideas for getting more exercise. Raise your chances of success by moving the best ideas into your Dream Routine.  Raise your chances of success even more by inviting your friends or family to join you. (You can learn more tips for creating Routines that Support Your Long-Term Goals in my Course Cut Through the Noise.)

Your weekly plan for boosting your energy may never be 100% perfect. That’s okay.  Your Think Time Planner is the place where you identify what you would do if you had total control. Then, you flex with your real life and record your journey along the way in the Review area.

Life happens. And, that is okay.

Your goal is to control what is within your control by creating ideal rhythms and routines that help support your dreams and goals.  Over time, you will become who you want to be across many areas of your life. This week, don’t miss out on your life because of a lack of energy, focus on boosting your energy so you can infuse more life into the tasks and relationships that matter most to you. 

How do you plan to boost your energy this week?

Cheering you on!

Christine

p.s. Don’t let the distractions of life get in the way of your dreams and goals.

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Are You Enjoying Yourself?

Part of the Think Time process involves including things in our life that we enjoy. 

At Think Time, we don’t only plan for things we have to do, but we also plan for things that will build us up and refuel us.

What are some things that you enjoy?

Are you remembering to include them as you move into your week?

The best way to do this is with your Think Time Planner.

Use the “to be“ cloud to brainstorm the ways you want to refuel this week.

 

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What’s The Big Idea? On Thinking About Our Thinking.

It’s been a great week for me.  I have been doing some mini trainings here in Dallas as well as virtually with some online groups online.  It has been refreshing for me to think “big picture” about our message and distill it into simplicity for those who have never heard about Think Time.

What are some of our big picture thoughts?  Let’s start with a quote from Uncle Al!

“We cannot solve our problems with the same THINKING we used when we created them.”  — Albert Einstein

Take a moment and write or draw some of the successes you are experiencing and some of the problems you are facing in your life.

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Some things are going well, and other things are not.  In the areas in which we are struggling or stuck, we need to develop new ways to think about things.  Then, we can get unstuck.

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Psychologist Henry Cloud notes that 90% of the thoughts we have today are the same thoughts we had yesterday.

While this has worked well for us in many areas in life, there are areas in life in which our old habits are no longer serving us.  Instead, they are actually hindering us.  When we rise above our thoughts and think about our thinking, new neural pathways begin to form and we can begin to get unstuck.

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This is the heart of what we are doing at Think Time.  We are practicing healthy thinking over and over again…sort of “trying on” the thinking patterns of top performers and wise people.  The more we practice these thinking patterns, over and over again, the stronger these new neural pathways will grow, and we can begin to get unstuck.

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Christine M. Wilson, LPC
Co-Founder, Think Time

 

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On Life Balance: Protect Your Health (3/6)

If you follow my blog, you are likely a person with great ambitions and larger-than-life dreams.  You want to express your unique purpose in a way that serves others and builds into something greater than yourself.

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Many people with larger than life aspirations–and frankly, big hearts–become surprised at a hidden enemy that works against their goals.

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This enemy’s name is “Burnout.”

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Think Time Purpose Planners prompt you to proactively consider what you can do to prevent a physical, mental, spiritual, relational or leadership crises.  
On a regular basis, you will place into your routines high-impact activities that build into your mind, your health, and your relationships, so you don’t have to worry about an unexpected hijack of your days and your dreams due to burnout.

 

 

Last week, I shared the story of Tommy Nelson’s unexpected plunge into depression.

“I was at the top of my game,” he shared.

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Tommy found himself face to face with a mental health crisis because he neglected rest and life balance over an extended period of time.

He pushed himself too hard pursuing grand goals.

“I didn’t know you could burn out doing something you loved.”

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This week, I will share the story of an equally ambitious businessman–Michael Hyatt.

Michael Hyatt was on business in New York when he experienced a health crisis that changed his life.

At the end of dinner, Michael felt deep chest pains.  He said it felt like the room was closing in on him.  After 5-10 minutes, which felt like forever, he embarrassingly shared with his colleague, “I think I am having a heart attack.”

His friend immediately took charge, called a cab, and got him to the nearest hospital.

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After running a series of tests, the physicians told him that he did not have heart trouble, but they monitored him overnight.  He continued to not show signs of heart problems, so they released him with the recommendation that he check in with his cardiologist when he returned to Nashville.

Well, Michael was back in the hospital twice over the course of the next year.  He even checked with a counselor to see if he was having stress-induced panic attacks (which can mimic the feelings of heart attacks.)

Finally, he saw a renowned cardiologist in his area who had saved the lives of professional associates he knew.  This cardiologist told Michael, “about 30% of my patients who think they are having heart problems have an acid reflux problem. The symptoms are very similar. Fortunately, it is easy to treat.”

He then warned, “Stress is also something you need to address, primarily through rest and exercise. If you don’t make this a priority, you could be back in here with a real heart problem.

Michael realized that over time because of the demands of work, he had let his health slide.  “I wasn’t working out regularly, resting as much as I should, or eating very well. But suddenly, I was motivated!” Michael said.

Michael made his first “life plan” after this experience.  He felt that he was suddenly looking at the end of his life, and it changed his point of view.  He has since released a book Living Forward that helps people walk through a process of evaluating their life-long goals–creating concrete steps in each area of life.

His brush with what he thought could have been the end of his life refocused the rest of his life, and now he serves others with a new message.  “Never sacrifice sleep for work,” he shared on a recent Lead to Win podcast.

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It is wonderful to be a person of high aspirations.  It is just very helpful to also know that you may, if you are not intentional, also be a person at risk for burnout.

Even though our dreams are larger than life, we are not.  We still live within bodies that have limited capabilities.  If we try to cheat our limits, we will find out that they are in fact that–limits.

We must honor our bodies and accept their limitations if we are going to thrive for the long haul, and a way we so this is by proactively protecting our health.

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To learn more about how you can proactively protecting your health as part of your regular planning, go to think-time.com, order a Purpose Planner, and enjoy our Free Online Coaching in the Think Time 3DR Life Leadership Process.

How are you protecting your health?  What are you doing well?  What could you do better?

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Christine M. Wilson, LPC
Co-Founder, Think Time

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Tweetable Highlights:
Are you a person with great ambitions and larger-than-life dreams? Read more: http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz
Do you want to express your unique purpose in a way that serves others and builds into something greater than yourself? Read more: http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz
Many people with larger than life aspirations are surprised at a hidden enemy that works against their goals. Read more: http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz
How are you protecting your health?  What are you doing well?  What could you do better? Read more: http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz
To learn more about how you can proactively protecting your health go to think-time.com. Read more: http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz
Order a Purpose Planner and enjoy our Free Online Coaching in the Think Time 3DR Life Leadership Process. Read more: http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz
Even though our dreams are larger than life, we are not.  Read more: http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz
We live within bodies that have limited capabilities.  Read more: http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz
If we try to cheat our limits, we will find out that they are in fact that–limits. Read more: http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz
Make addressing stress a priority. Read more: http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz
Build rest and exercise into your routines. Read more: http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz

We must honor our bodies and accept their limitations if we are going to thrive for the long haul. Read more: http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz

Protect your health to thrive in the long haul. Read more: http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz

 

 

On Life Balance: Protect Your Health (2/6)

One thing we can never delegate to anyone else is protecting our health.

Only we can control what we eat, when we go to bed, and how much we exercise.

The necessity of protecting our health is just about as much of a scientific “law” as gravity.  Sure there are variables, but the big picture is–ignore your body’s need for health and it will break down.

Rather than repeat what other writers have eloquently stated regarding eating better foods, sleeping adequately, and exercising well, I am going to share with you two stories in the next two blogs.

Two thought leaders I really respect have stories of seasons in their lives in which they thought they could cheat the “law of health.”  These seasons of their lives became pivotal points of change and dramatically altered the rest of their live’s timelines–their mission and their audience

I will tell you the first story today.

It is of a pastor– Tommy Nelson.

Tommy graduated from my alma mater and spoke on his experience when I was a student.  He is a globally known pastor and teacher.  Among other things, he is known for his series on the Song of Solomon, leading a top notch mentorship program, and a definitive country accent.  Extremely driven and disciplined, for years, he kept an incredibly rigorous schedule.

…until he got “hijacked” by something.

He had no idea what it was.

Before he experienced it, he didn’t know it existed.

After going through “it,” however, he discovered that theologians Charles Spurgeon and Martin Luther, scientist Sir Isaac Newton and many other world-shakers had experienced the same thing.  A recent Newsweek article stated that half of the fortune 500 CEOs had had it.  Next, 80+ billion dollars was lost in one year due to lost wages and time off of work because of it.

He described “it” as a “joyless, agoraphobic black hole… a hopeless, despairing spiral.    It is scary.  It is lonely.”

Tommy had pain all over his body.  He found himself unable to think.  He was on a fetal position on the floor.  He went to the hospital twice but was told his health was perfect.

“I couldn’t sleep from May until November.”

He expected it to go away, but instead over months it only escalated.

Though initially resistant, he finally sought help with a counselor and a psychiatrist.  The psychiatrist told him that he was “a garden variety of depression and anxiety that comes from hyper-stress over years.  Finally, your body says, ‘That’s all.'”

His psychiatrist educated him about the neurotransmitter Serotonin.  “Serotonin allows your central nervous system to function.”  Stress depletes Serotonin.  Continued stress will eliminate it.  “It’s like an engine that doesn’t have oil.  The phenomena is called, ‘depression’ or the flip side is ‘acute anxiety.'”

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Tommy shared, “I didn’t know you could get totally burned out doing something you loved.”

He kept an insane schedule every day of the week writing books, counseling, mentoring, and speaking all over the country.

“I was at the top of my game.”

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The doctor told him he would need to deal with his schedule.  He also started him on medicines called SSRIs that prevented the reuptake of Serotonin so his body would not continue to deplete its supply.

Tommy also saw a counselor who “had been there.”  He said the counselor could help “talk him down because he understood.”

After about a month of the medicine, Tommy said, “Something lifted.”  A month later, he experienced “feeling good” again.  The next month, he began preaching again.

“You don’t feel different.  You feel like you.”

I had to cut out about 60% of my schedule, but the happiness came back.

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“What did I learn from this?”

“I learned to rest.”

“I learned that you can get completely burned out doing what you love.”

“I learned that we can’t take anything for granted.  You can get screwed up really quick.”

“Finally, I learned empathy.  So many people have gone or are going through this.  I had pastored the church since 1977 and people in my congregation came out of the woodwork.  They described the same ‘fetal position on the floor’ experience I had had.”

 

What did Tommy want people in the helping professions like the pastors and counselors in our school to learn?

#1 “Rest.”

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#2 Be aware of your culture.  “Our culture produces stress like sweets produce decay.”

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#3 Be aware of yourself. “Quite often people fall into this out of feelings of great responsibility.”

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Tommy also shared that he wanted people to not be resistant to taking medicine.  “Our mind is not a given.  It is not this separate entity.  Our mind is affected by a lot of things.”

Years later, Tommy later shared with his congregation that he was still unable to get off of his medicine.  He felt like this would be something that he may need to deal with for the rest of his life.

At times, a prolonged season of stress–this can stem from unresolved grief, doing too much of what we love, emotional stress, or simply always being over-busy–can impact the rest of our entire lives.

Tommy’s counselor shared with him that many of the people who go through a depression like he experienced also go through a divorce during that time.  “When they said ‘for better or for worse,’ they weren’t thinking this.”

Tommy expressed thankfulness that his wife stuck with him through the entire experience.  (Maybe it had something to do with all of his decades of work in applying what he taught on Romance from the Song of Solomon.)  ; )

What are your thoughts?  Is it a new idea to think that too much of a good thing could bring such a dramatic health crisis to your life?  Have you walked through this with a loved one?  Please comment and share.

Next time, I’ll share a story about how pushing too hard led to a physical health crisis and what one man did about it.

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Christine M. Wilson, LPC
Co-Founder, Think Time

Tweetable  Blog Highlights

One thing we can never delegate to anyone else is protecting our health. Read more: http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz

Only we can control what we eat, when we go to bed, and how much we exercise. Read more: http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz

The necessity of protecting our health is just about as much of a scientific “law” as gravity. Read more: http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz

“I didn’t know you could get totally burned out doing something you loved.” –Tommy Nelson @dentonbible

[I was not expecting this.] “I was at the top of my game.” –Tommy Nelson @dentonbible Read more: http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz

“Our mind is affected by a lot of things.”  –Tommy Nelson @dentonbible Read more: http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz

Stress depletes Serotonin.  Continued stress will eliminate it.  Read more: http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz

“Rest.” –Tommy Nelson @dentonbible Read more: http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz

Be aware of your culture.  “Our culture produces stress like sweets produce decay.” –Tommy Nelson @dentonbible

Be aware of yourself. “Quite often people fall into this out of feelings of great responsibility.” –Tommy Nelson  @dentonbible

At times, a prolonged season of stress can impact the rest of our entire lives. – Christine Wilson @taketimetothinktime http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz

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Think Time 3DR Process

We have a serious problem.  We are losing valuable time.  We have created an innovative process that helps people to dream big, get more time for what matters most, and become who they want to be.

Find out how Think Time can help you achieve your goals while improving your life balance at think-time.com.

Shop Purpose Planners here.