“I put my kids on my to-do list!”

This has been so much fun!

I have loved interacting with you throughout this month on three of the most important aspects of success: results, relationships, and resilience. Keeping these three pillars in view will help you get your best results in a distracting world.

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Last week, on IGTV, I had the opportunity to speak with parent Coach Tyler Drouet of Simplify Parenting about helping your kids move from chaos to order with time management tips for kids with ADHD. Then, I was privileged to welcome my friend September James to our community to share three tips on building community while building your business. Check these interviews out if you missed them!

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Now, onto this week’s topic! This week, we have turned our attention to the importance of building relationships.

As a Licensed Professional Counselor, I have had the privilege of having a front row seat to the self-concepts, hopes & dreams, and journeys of people on a deep level.

Among one of the most profound impressions I have gained over time is the monumental importance of our family relationships in shaping who we are and who we believe ourselves to be.

Interpersonal neurobiologist Dr. Dan Siegel says that the wiring of our brain is literally created as we interact with those in our lives. The interactions in our relationships make us who we are.

Dr. Henry Cloud says it this way, “The brain runs on three things: oxygen, glucose, and relationships.”

Even though they are so important, relationships can be one of the first aspects of your life to suffer when you become overwhelmed.

Don’t let that happen to you.

Use the “to be” cloud in the Dream Phase of Think Time to brainstorm ways to stay connected to God, to your purpose, and to others. 

Then, use the Routine Worksheet to build the best ideas into your routines.

At times, simply having something on your calendar helps you move what matters most into your life. As Steven Covey said, “Don’t prioritize your schedule. Schedule your priorities.” Allow relationships to get on the calendar.

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You may be thinking, I will pay better attention to my relationships after I launch my business. 

What if I told you that you didn’t have to wait?

The year that Evan launched his new business, not only was he able to bring his dreams to life, but he also told me he felt more aware of the needs of his wife as he used the Think Zones exercise in his Think Time Planner.

Similarly, the year her husband founded a church in a new city–an entrepreneurial endeavor–Mary felt the freedom with her Think Time Planner “for the first time to put my kids on my to-do list. I don’t know why this never occurred to me before!”

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It is simply not enough to “get things done” while your relationships remain on the back burner. You need to get the right things done–including being present with the people in your life. 

Let me remind you: you are not a machine. 

You are a human BEing designed to DO important things. Make time for those who matter to you–even in busy seasons. Your spouse did not covenant “for better or for worse” to be put on hold. And, your children need your attention to thrive.

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Don’t settle for short-term success in one area of life.  

Take time to Think Time and get more time for what matters most–in your professional life and in your personal life.

Next week, we’ll discuss how you can maintain your vitality for the long haul as we discuss developing resilience.

How have your relationships shaped who you are? Would you comment below?

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This is Success

When you arrive at the end of your life and look back, what do you want to see?

Who do you want to have been?

What do you want to have done?

In essence, “What is success?”

This question was actually the opening line of my high school graduation speech. As I stood in front of those blazing lights, each word echoed through the stadium. I stepped out of that stadium to continue my quest of discovery.

I spent a couple decades on this quest– learning in college, attending a leadership internship in one state followed by a fellowship in another, working at a church then a non-profit, graduating with a masters from seminary and then serving patients recovering from brain injury as I gained my license as a professional counselor.

Lately, I have continued my quest nurturing and educating my kids for success in the next generation and serving you through Think Time.  As it turns out, I have been thinking about this and gathering great stuff for quite a long time…24 years!  I only wish I could find a copy of that speech!!! I would love to know what I came up with at 17!

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THREE QUALITIES OF SUCCESS YOU CAN’T AFFORD TO MISS

Today, I want to talk about three aspects of success that my planners and courses at Think Time are designed to support–qualities you can’t afford to miss in your life!

I’ll be talking about these for the next few weeks. It is my belief that each of these qualities is necessary to live a full and meaningful life–to truly succeed.

Results.

You may have judged success in the past based on what you did. Let me turn that on its head, and ask instead, not “What did you do?” but “What were your results?” You know from experience that it is possible to work hard from dawn until dusk and accomplish next to nothing–exhausting yourself and never making headway on your important goals. Sure, you were busy. You “got a lot done.” But, did you get results? Getting results is what moves the needle toward your dreams and goals.

Relationships.

It is simply not enough to “get things done” while your relationships remain on the back burner. You are not a machine. You are a human BEing designed to DO important things. Having great results without great relationships OR great relationships without great results is never enough. You have to have both to succeed. I believe that being connected to God, to others, and to your purpose are central to success. Relationships fuel your life.

Resilience.

Resilience keeps you in the game for the long haul. Anyone can sprint and have the appearance of success while things quietly crumble under the surface. Time tells the whole story. When you have the quality of resilience, you have the energy and the mindset to bounce back when set backs happen. You continue to create great work over the long haul.

The truly successful person consistently achieves great results and maintains great relationships over the long haul — continuously maintaining energy and focus for what matters most.

Over the next few weeks, I will discuss one quality a week to deep dive into the importance of each of these qualities in a little more depth.

I DON’T HAVE THAT KIND OF TIME.

As you read, you may nod your head in agreement while deep down you don’t believe you could ever have time to achieve that degree of success–you don’t even have time to think! In your life, there are simply not enough hours in the day.

Wow, I get it. Life is moving so faster than ever, and the distractions are endless! It can feel overwhelming to think about reaching for the stars.

However, what if I suggested that that you don’t have enough time NOT to pursue true success in your life? Would you agree that by not taking time to ensure that you are getting great results, building great relationships, and investing in your resilience, you don’t risk just losing hours…you could lose entire decades of your life! 

You don’t just risk losing hours…you could lose entire decades of your life.

Christine Wilson, LPC

If you don’t have a vision and strategy for getting results, you could spend your golden years working a dead-end job–just to pay the bills.

If you don’t have a vision and a strategy for your relationships, your kids’ childhood may be over before you have learned how to be present with them.

If you don’t have a vision for your health, you could achieve all of the above success but lose out on decades of your life to enjoy your success.

Please hear me. This is important.

The truth is you don’t have time to not to take time to clarify your vision and create a strategy for these three areas of success. 

And, remember, you don’t have to spend decades learning what you need to know to achieve this type of success. I have already done the work for you!

In my next Think Time Thursday e-mail, I will deep dive into getting results and share with you the approach I personally use to do less while achieving more. So, keep your eye out for that post. It will simply be called “how I do less to achieve more…”

In the mean time would you please take a moment to share your thoughts and comment on this blog?

How to Find Time for a Morning Routine

Hey guys! You may have noticed a new type of post I added to my Instagram feed this week: #workfromhomehacks

These are simple, creative ways you can find time for what matters most so you can get results at home.

After 7 years of working from home with kids underfoot, I understand that you need to be strategic if you are going to squeeze in time for your dreams and goals and be the parent you want to be.

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A lot of entrepreneurs with ADHD have a hard time implementing morning routines. You are probably just thankful to be able to get out of bed! I totally get it. I am #notamorningperson either.

Today I am going to share you a simple habit I have implemented that is central to my morning routine strategy. With all of the distractions in my house (5 little kids), this one tip can save me up to 40 minutes in the morning.

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Here’s a simple tip you can add to your rhythms to find more time in the morning too.

Simply get into the habit of making a warm breakfast the day before. Slip it in the oven in the morning while you grab your coffee, and voila! it’s like you have a personal chef in your kitchen serving you while you get your day started on the right foot.

Some of my favorite breakfasts include zucchini bread, sweet potato carrot cakes with sausage, and veggie-infused quiche. Simply garnish with fresh berries for the Pinterest look and you are ready to go!

The compounding results of an open morning time block are many.

1. More Present. The thing I love most about this habit is how present you can be in the mornings. You can be more present to your soul and spirit and your relationship with God and others. You can be more more present to what is on your heart and mind and write these down on your Daily Planner pages to keep them from spinning through your head throughout the day. You can be more present with your family. Instead of over-focusing on the urgent task of flipping pancakes or scrambling eggs last minute, you are freed to greet your children and connect with them better during their most cuddly time of the day.

2. More Energized. While I recommend starting your mornings in calm, quiet solace allowing your mind to wander, I also recommend having a distinct point when you pivot to exercise. On your Think Time Planner, highlight this time block in orange to represent how energizing this part of the day is to your dreams and goals. Here’s why: by keeping an active and healthy body, you energize your body and your mind for the tasks of the day so you can get your best results.

3. More Time. When you clear your mind in the morning by getting on paper what is on your mind, you reduce internal distractions and promote focus toward your dreams and goals. By exercising each morning, you are likely to feel better and to boost your energy. If you have been with me a while, you know that when you find more energy and more focus, you often find more time. You can learn more about that on my blog here.

Don’t set yourself up for a frazzled day by leaving breakfast to the last minute anymore. Design your ultimate morning routine in your Routine Worksheets, and make time for it by making breakfast the day before.

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How Do You Want to Be Remembered?

How do you want to be remembered?

By your kids.

By your family members.

By your team members at work.

By the customers you serve.

By your neighbors.

By the stranger passing you on the street.

By the people of the next generation.

Think through the lenses of anyone you choose:  How do you want to be remembered by the people in your life? 

Instead of looking at your to-dos head on this morning, align yourself with your values by beginning your day with this simple question.

Allow it to shape your day today and see what a difference it makes in the small choices throughout the day.

How do you want to be remembered by the people in your life?

Christine Wilson, LPC

Reflect…

What shifted?

What suddenly looks important that didn’t seem so important five minutes ago?

What suddenly seems unimportant that seemed important five minutes ago?

By this simple exercise, you can shift your entire day.

Don’t let your days be highjacked by things that seem important but really aren’t. Make the most of your life and your time by aligning your activities with what matters most. Simply taking 2 minutes to ask yourself the right question can shift your decision making and change your life.

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Remember, don’t start with the plan. Start with the dream. Then, you will live a life aligned with your deepest values.

Join the movement of people like you saying “no” to mindless busyness and “yes” to purposeful productivity, buy your Think Time Planner today.

Christine Wilson, LPC

Co-founder of Think Time

p.s. Don’t let the distractions of life get in the way of your dreams and goals.

Buy a Think Time Planner today!

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I am So Tired!

Are you exhausted?

If you are like so many people I know you are wearing yourself out to “get stuff done.”

Today I want to challenge you to ask yourself the question, “Is it worth it?”

Are these things that I’m doing worth my energy, my time, and my health?

When you are exhausted, you’re not doing your best work, you are not connecting with others well, and you’re not ready to meet the challenges of the day.

Are the tasks you are doing right now that are wearing you out worth that to you?

Is the trade off worth it? 

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See the Positive.

When you are interacting with people, do you naturally see the positive or the negative?

When you are talking about people with others, what do you say?  Do you tend to comment on the positive or the negative? 

What we often don’t realize sometimes is that when we speak negatively about somebody, it says more about us than them.

Everyone has positive. Everyone has negative. What we see is a reflection of what is in our hearts. What we highlight to others reflects what is inside us.

Take some think-time today to dwell on the positive traits of those in your life.

The more you think about them, the more these positive traits will dwell in your heart and will come out of your mouth as life-giving words.

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Eye Contact

We live in the Digital Age.

We have many advances and really cool things we can do now.

However, what is one thing that has changed?

Eye contact.

It is through eye contact that we connect with those around us.

It is through eye contact that we step out of our own lives and into the world of another.

It is through eye contact that we know and are known.

As you move throughout your week, be aware of your eyes and the eyes of others.  Are you making meaningful life-giving connections, or are you missing them?

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“That’s When The Kids Came.” On Repurposing Our Goals.

Life is not all about achieving our goals.

It’s about living our lives.

Sometimes we set aside our goals for a time to live more fully focused on what matters more.  In other words, we repurpose our goals…we shift our focus.


I was recently talking with a friend who adopted a sibling set of three a few years ago.  She was describing their move to the city and all of the renovations she and her husband completed on their home.  Then, she described a specific location where the renovations stopped.

“That’s when the kids came.”

Her adoption process turned out to involve an incredibly short wait, and when her kids arrived, there was no turning back to finish renovations!

There was not a hint of regret in her voice.  It was clear where her priorities were.  Welcoming these precious kids into her life immediately took precedence over home renovations. What had been important a month earlier now was not even being considered for time and attention.

This is good.

We do well to constantly reevaluate our priorities according to our season of life and adjusting accordingly.

Life is meant to be lived to the full in the present.


Do you have some things on your calendar that reflect old priorities?  Do your best to let these go and focus fully on your current season of life.

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Questions to Ask Yourself to Get Out of a Slump

Sometimes, you feel down.

Or anxious.

Sometimes, your thinking is not sharp and your energy is low.

You are in a slump.

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You don’t know what is causing this.  You just know you have been at your best before, and you are not there now.  Whatever you are feeling, you know it can be better…because it has been better.

If your energy is low…your spirits down…your brain foggy…or you are stuck in high gear and you can’t seem to shift out of it, take a minute to ask yourself these following self-care questions.

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You may be surprised how these impact your life–more than you might think.

  1. Am I exercising vigorously regularly (30+ minutes 3-5 times a week)?
  2. Am I sleeping adequately (7.5 + hours each night).
  3. Am I eating healthily?
  4. Am I staying hydrated throughout the day–even during the busy part?
  5. Am I making time for relaxed, connecting time with friends.
  6. Am I playing and having fun?
  7. Am I making time for my spiritual life?
  8. Am I prioritizing what is important across all areas of my life?
  9. Am I disciplining my mind to think primarily about things that are inside my control–rather than spinning my mind on things outside my control?
  10. Am I intentionally forgiving people who have hurt me?
  11. Am I breathing deeply throughout the day?
  12. Am I saying “yes” and “no” freely?
  13. Am I thankful?

These will not solve every problem,* but making basic lifestyle and thinking habit changes will help you more than you might think.

What about you?  Do you have a story to share about how self-care helped get you out of a slump?  Please encourage others with your story below!

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*If you feel really “down,” “anxious,” or “foggy,” please talk to your doctor and/or counselor immediately.  This blog is not medical advice.

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4 Reasons Why You Need to Delegate from Your Team’s Perspective By: Bryan Miles, CEO and Co-founder of BELAY

It’s easy to get caught up in your new ability to delegate, that you forget about the other side of equation — how your team feels when it comes to your delegation. Have you ever wondered what they might be thinking as you entrust your tasks and responsibilities to them? Their perception is a key part of the delegation equation.

You’re ability to delegate to others is only one side of it. When you delegate to a team member, you must remember to keep your team’s perspective in mind, too.

Delegation From Your Team’s Perspective

In the journey of working to create ideal working relationships, we stopped and asked ourselves a very hard question … what is it like to be on the “other” side of my delegation?

Below are the top 4 things I have discovered that employees wish their leaders knew:

1)  Employees really hunger to know the WHY behind the WHAT of the tasks they are being asked to do.  Helping your employees to know and understand the WHY will most-always produce successful outcomes.

2)  People don’t mind being led as long as they feel appreciated along the way.  Be conscience to show your gratitude for their time and efforts and celebrate their accomplishments.

3)  Know what makes your team tick.  Is it words of affirmation, a flexible schedule, public recognition, or time off?  Take the time to know and understand your team and their needs and you will create a strong working relationship and a loyal employee.

4)  Be someone your team and or employees WANT to like and they will follow you and support you in all you do.

Remember, don’t forget that you are successful on the hard work of others. If you have their back, and they believe it, they’ll have your back!

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Bryan Miles, CEO and Co-founder of BELAY

A Virtual Assistant Company Helping You Climb Higher

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