Clarity Takes Hard Work.

I recently spent three hours with a friend who is gifted in organization.  She helped me to sift and sort through four ages of kids clothes, creating donation bags, and organizing the “keepers” in accessible bins.

As I look into my kids’ closet after all that work, the takeaway I had was, “Clarity takes hard work.”

After three full hours of two of us working nonstop, there is clarity in my kids’ closets and drawers.  It is clear which clothes are for each child. It is clear what I have and what I need to purchase for the next season. It is clear where my children need to return their clothes when they are clean.

This clarity feels good. 


 

I will admit, however, I am exhausted after sifting and sorting 1 million little pieces of fabric.  It hurts my brain!

However, I wouldn’t go back and do anything differently. That job needed to be done. And we will all benefit from the hard work applied to that task.  

This clarity is peaceful.  

This clarity is productive.

This clarity is worth the hard work.


This process reminds me of the hard mental & emotional work we put into the Think Time process.  It takes work to cast a clear vision, to decide what stays and what needs to go, and how to place activities into the correct containers (or boxes on our calendars).  

In the middle of the process, it feels a bit messy, and tough calls have to be made.  “Yeses” need to be identified.  “Nos” need to be bravely stated. 

Perseverance will ensure the job is well done.

The process takes hard work. 


But, when it is all over…

This clarity is peaceful.

This clarity is productive.

This clarity is worth it!  

As you take time to think-time this week, ask yourself if you are putting in the work to really get the clarity you need to move forward in peace and confidence.   

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Eye Contact

We live in the Digital Age.

We have many advances and really cool things we can do now.

However, what is one thing that has changed?

Eye contact.

It is through eye contact that we connect with those around us.

It is through eye contact that we step out of our own lives and into the world of another.

It is through eye contact that we know and are known.

As you move throughout your week, be aware of your eyes and the eyes of others.  Are you making meaningful life-giving connections, or are you missing them?

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“That’s When The Kids Came.” On Repurposing Our Goals.

Life is not all about achieving our goals.

It’s about living our lives.

Sometimes we set aside our goals for a time to live more fully focused on what matters more.  In other words, we repurpose our goals…we shift our focus.


I was recently talking with a friend who adopted a sibling set of three a few years ago.  She was describing their move to the city and all of the renovations she and her husband completed on their home.  Then, she described a specific location where the renovations stopped.

“That’s when the kids came.”

Her adoption process turned out to involve an incredibly short wait, and when her kids arrived, there was no turning back to finish renovations!

There was not a hint of regret in her voice.  It was clear where her priorities were.  Welcoming these precious kids into her life immediately took precedence over home renovations. What had been important a month earlier now was not even being considered for time and attention.

This is good.

We do well to constantly reevaluate our priorities according to our season of life and adjusting accordingly.

Life is meant to be lived to the full in the present.


Do you have some things on your calendar that reflect old priorities?  Do your best to let these go and focus fully on your current season of life.

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Are You Comfortable Feeling Incompetent? You Should Be.

On a 2017 episode of The EntreLeadership Podcast, Ken Coleman interviewed author and entrepreneur Seth Godin.  Ken introduced him as one of the most brilliant thinkers of our time.

Seth then completed the interview, and he did not disappoint.

He says that if we are to change (hear: grow!) we must be comfortable with feeling incompetent.

Seth continued.

Often people do not change because they don’t want to be uncomfortable and feel incompetent.

He says this feeling of incompetence, however, is often a prerequisite to growth and change. 

People who resist these negative feelings are less likely to grow…less likely to change.

How can we apply this understanding? 

Well, if you are a leader in an organization–which many of you are–one take-away, Seth suggests, is to not be surprised when your people do not immediately embrace the change you want to bring into your company.

You likely hired these people for their competence, so don’t be surprised when they resist the feelings of incompetence that come with new initiatives.  Be patient with them.

Also, as you go forward, hire people who are not only competent, but also curious and humble…in other words, they are willing to go through the negative feelings of incompetence because they value change and growth more than always feeling competent.

It may take a little longer in the interviewing process, but it will be worth it in the long run.

How can I apply this in my personal life?

Be aware of this dynamic any time you are presented with something new (for instance, a planning process like Think Time that is a little different than everyone else…moving beyond mere lines and words and including new techniques like visualization, drawing, and mind-mapping).

Embrace the fact that you may be naturally inclined to resist things that are good for you because you don’t want to feel incompetent.

Have a conscious dialogue with yourself before you say “no” to a great opportunity.

Are you resisting because you are uncomfortable with feelings of incompetence?

Can you reframe the feelings of incompetence to mean that you are making progress toward change and growth?

Can you use this new understanding to set yourself on a new learning trajectory this coming year?

Be encouraged.  Because and not many people are willing to move through the uncomfortable feelings of incompetence, you can quickly set yourself apart from your competition by embracing it as a prerequisite for growth and change.  Embrace this mindset tip, and you are already a step ahead.

What are your thoughts?

What is one thing you have learned that has changed your life? 

Was it uncomfortable at first to learn it?

Are you glad you learned it in spite of your initial resistant feelings?

Please tell us about it in the comments below.

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More is Less

Last week, I reminded you of the truth that often: Less is more.

 

This week, I want to remind you that often… More is less.

Sometimes, we say “yes” too quickly.  There are so many wonderful opportunities!  When we say “yes” to too many of them, unfortunately, our most important YESes are unintentionally told NO.

Let’s quickly discuss a few.

Relationships.  Unfortunately, when we say “yes” to too much, it is often our dearest relationships that suffer the most.  As people, we are designed to live in quality connections with others.  When we are busy about many things, this is one of the first things to give.  We’ve all experienced this.

Health.  Sometimes we push ourselves so hard to keep up with our “yeses” that we neglect our nutrition, our rest, and our exercise.  We are designed to be dependent on these basic needs to deliver our best results.  Unfortunately, cheating our health is a temporary fix that our bodies will not allow us to do for long.  (Read one man’s story here.) When we neglect our health, we often sabotage our future success.  Oops.

Quality and excellence.  You’ve experienced this–from other people of course. ; ) You are working on a team project and someone who says “yes” to too many things is routinely the one who is dropping the ball or producing shoddy work.  It hurts the quality of the delivered result.  They feel like they are doing “everything they can” but you know there were a lot of choices before that point of crisis that led to the embarrassing results.  The last thing you want is to be “that person” in someone else’s life!  You know how it feels on the other side!

This is why it is worth a little think-time to get really clear on your “YESes.”  Only then will you know where to confidently apply your “NOs.”  Then, you will have more of what you want.  And less of what you don’t want.

And, you can confidently live your life focused on what matters most.

How have you seen More as Less in your life?  Please comment below.

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Less is More

As you move into your week this week, keep this #thinktimethought at the front of your mind.

Less is more.

Print out the picture and post it where you will see it often.  Apply it broadly and often and see how your week is changed.

So much of life is identifying the few things that deserve our whole-hearted “YES!”

If you want to go deeper and applying this practically, check out this blog on the 80/20 Rule or this blog on just saying “Yes!”

Leave this page open on your browser, and as you notice a difference in your life this week, tell us about it below!

 

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How to Get Started with Your Think Time Digital Downloads

Hey guys!

This year, we have released our Think Time Purpose Planners as Digital Downloads, and it is awesome to see what you all can do with them.  I am learning from you!

Here are the two main ways you can use your Think Time Digital Download PDFs.  First, you can print them and think-time on paper.  Second, you can download your PDF, and use it on your iPad or device.

  •  Print and Bind your Purpose Planner–any way you like!  When you print your Purpose Planner, you can be as simple or as custom as you would like to be.
    • You can simply print your PDF at home, hole-punch your sheets and place them in a binder.
    • You can also have your PDF printed at your local FedEx Kinkos, Office Depot, etc… with a coil binding.  (The layout is more precisely designed for a coil than a binder, but either way can work.)
    • Another option is to discuss your needs with a customer representative from an awesome paper store like Clampitt Paper here in Texas.  This is especially fun if you are printing for a group and want to customize “team” colors or paper selections.  I also recommend this option if you would like your PDFs to be printed on higher-end papers that may not be carried at more generic stores.  (My personal favorite.)
  • Download your Purpose Planner to your iPad or device.  Just as the sky is the limit on paper selections at Clampitt, the sky is also the limit on app selections when you use your iPad or your favorite device.  (My only caveat is that if you choose to use Think Time on your device, be sure that you put your device on Airplane Mode to get the most out of your think-time!!)
    • Here are two ways that Think Timers have used their downloads this year.
      • Think Time with One Note.
        • Stacy uses her Think Time Purpose Planner with the app One Note.
        • Here is what she had to say, “It’s a little bit more of a manual setup, but one note is organized into notebooks, sections, and pages. I have each quarter/month/week setup as their own page and arranged them so the are side by side like they would be in the printed book. I also made them a background image for the page, so I can draw or type on top of them. Having each one be it’s own page gives me some extra space around it for extra lists of things to do, or sketching out design ideas, etc.”
        • This is what it looks like:

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  • Think Time with Good Note.
    • Julie uses her Think Time Purpose Planner with the app Good Note.
    • Here is a video tutorial of how she uploads her Think Time Purpose Planner into Good Note with a few tips.

Thank you, Stacy and Julie for sharing your tech-savvy skills with us!  All, please comment below with any and all other options that are out there.  As I said earlier, I am learning from you all!  How will you use your Think Time this year?

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Questions to Ask Yourself to Get Out of a Slump

Sometimes, you feel down.

Or anxious.

Sometimes, your thinking is not sharp and your energy is low.

You are in a slump.

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You don’t know what is causing this.  You just know you have been at your best before, and you are not there now.  Whatever you are feeling, you know it can be better…because it has been better.

If your energy is low…your spirits down…your brain foggy…or you are stuck in high gear and you can’t seem to shift out of it, take a minute to ask yourself these following self-care questions.

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You may be surprised how these impact your life–more than you might think.

  1. Am I exercising vigorously regularly (30+ minutes 3-5 times a week)?
  2. Am I sleeping adequately (7.5 + hours each night).
  3. Am I eating healthily?
  4. Am I staying hydrated throughout the day–even during the busy part?
  5. Am I making time for relaxed, connecting time with friends.
  6. Am I playing and having fun?
  7. Am I making time for my spiritual life?
  8. Am I prioritizing what is important across all areas of my life?
  9. Am I disciplining my mind to think primarily about things that are inside my control–rather than spinning my mind on things outside my control?
  10. Am I intentionally forgiving people who have hurt me?
  11. Am I breathing deeply throughout the day?
  12. Am I saying “yes” and “no” freely?
  13. Am I thankful?

These will not solve every problem,* but making basic lifestyle and thinking habit changes will help you more than you might think.

What about you?  Do you have a story to share about how self-care helped get you out of a slump?  Please encourage others with your story below!

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*If you feel really “down,” “anxious,” or “foggy,” please talk to your doctor and/or counselor immediately.  This blog is not medical advice.

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5 Steps to Becoming An Effective Delegator

By Guest Writer: Bryan Miles, CEO and Co-founder of BELAY

Delegation may not always come naturally to you, and for some of us, we are constantly trying to perfect this area of leadership. It’s worth striving for perfection because when you have motivated people who trust you, you’ll see your business propelled forward. Simon Sinek says this of delegation: “You have to earn trust by communicating and demonstrating that you share the same values and beliefs. You have to talk about your WHY and prove it with WHAT you do. Again, a WHY is just a belief, HOWs are the actions we take to realize that belief, and WHATs are the results of those actions. When all three are in balance, trust is built and value is perceived.”

Here are a few key points that I have realized over the years to help me perfect my “Art of Delegation”. Take what works for you and make it your own in your journey to building trust with your team.

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1)  Delegation to me is “beginning with the end in mind.”  Meaning … asking those on my team to execute tasks that serve an ultimate purpose and either solve a problem or move our business forward.  Assigning these tasks help me free up space/time in my day so that I can take care of the “one-offs” and critical daily tasks that I, as a Leader, need to attend to.

2)  When you delegate, delegate a result not a task.  What is the end result that you are looking for?  Give your teammate and/or employee the opportunity to work toward a goal and then celebrate the result with them.  Not only will you give them something to celebrate but you have also given them a sense of ownership and responsibility for their projects/efforts.

3)  Don’t delegate things you love doing.  In most cases, the things you HATE to do take more time to do and distract you from the goals you are working toward.  Delegate those tasks to team members who are more qualified and or patient and willing to execute those items so you won’t be bogged down by doing them.

4)  Express to your team the WHY behind the WHAT so they can feel passionate about the projects they are executing. Understand that people will strive and toil … and the WHY can fuel them.

5)  Be mindful of the tasks you ask others to execute (from a timing and knowledge-base perspective) and express gratitude to them when tasks are complete.  This creates a greater relationship with you and your employees and makes you someone they will want to follow.

You don’t have to jump in with all these ideas at once. Try a few out and see what happens when you focus on the why behind your tasks and the ultimate result you want with each delegation assignment.

The art of delegation isn’t just about you as a leader though and how you divvy out assignments. Delegating is about knowing your team and the powerful part they play in the process. When employees know your motivation and recognize your trust, they feel more connected to the mission of your business. When there is trust, you will then see a healthier bottom line, which translates directly into everyone’s success.

In our next blog, we delve into understanding the role your employees play in delegation.

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What’s The Big Idea? On Thinking About Our Thinking.

It’s been a great week for me.  I have been doing some mini trainings here in Dallas as well as virtually with some online groups online.  It has been refreshing for me to think “big picture” about our message and distill it into simplicity for those who have never heard about Think Time.

What are some of our big picture thoughts?  Let’s start with a quote from Uncle Al!

“We cannot solve our problems with the same THINKING we used when we created them.”  — Albert Einstein

Take a moment and write or draw some of the successes you are experiencing and some of the problems you are facing in your life.

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Some things are going well, and other things are not.  In the areas in which we are struggling or stuck, we need to develop new ways to think about things.  Then, we can get unstuck.

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Psychologist Henry Cloud notes that 90% of the thoughts we have today are the same thoughts we had yesterday.

While this has worked well for us in many areas in life, there are areas in life in which our old habits are no longer serving us.  Instead, they are actually hindering us.  When we rise above our thoughts and think about our thinking, new neural pathways begin to form and we can begin to get unstuck.

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This is the heart of what we are doing at Think Time.  We are practicing healthy thinking over and over again…sort of “trying on” the thinking patterns of top performers and wise people.  The more we practice these thinking patterns, over and over again, the stronger these new neural pathways will grow, and we can begin to get unstuck.

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