Simply Have A Great Day!

I used to feel like I was a victim of my days.  It was a “good day” or a “bad day” and I didn’t really have much to do with what type it was.

I was along for the ride.

I also used to feel like whether I was successful in the course of a day had something to do with measuring up to an external standard.

What I am sharing in today’s Coaching Minute foundationally transformed how I view my days.

I don’t know of too many ideas have been more transformative for my life than this one.

I was first introduced to this concept by Marcia Ramsland in her book Simplify Your Life: Get Organized and Stay That Way.

In this book, Marcia suggests that I could make a plan for my day and design it in a way that worked for me…in a way that I enjoyed.

At the time, this idea was revolutionary to me.  Up to this point in my life, I had not thought much about what I enjoyed in a day.  I had dutifully sought to do what I thought was supposed to be done.  I had not considered that I was designed purposefully and perfectly to have certain types of days that would bring my heart joy in ways different than others–that certain types of days that would make my heart sing and feel successful to me.  

I had pretty much just compared myself to people I knew, to external pressures that were placed on me and listened unquestioningly to the internal critic in my head.  All of these were not helpful to me and generally left me feeling pretty bad.

I thought that to be productive, purposeful, or effective I needed to somehow become a Type A, organized person who loved to check things off my list and to do stuff all of the time.

Well, that is certainly not me; so in my internal world, I was always failing to live up to my own expectations.  

What a sad thing!  

I am beautifully designed for a unique purpose, but at that time, I was comparing myself to the standard’s of someone else’s unique purpose.  

What an utter waste!!

In her book Simplify Your Life, Marcia taught me to respect my unique design by clarifying the type of life I enjoyed.

Did I enjoy waking up and checking things off quickly or did I enjoy a slow morning?

What pace did I like my days to hold?  Slow, medium, or fast?

What types of activities do I want to include in an ideal day?


As you go into your day today, ask yourself if you are arranging your life in a way that suits how are you are designed. 

What do you enjoy? Are you scheduling your life in a way that helps you thrive? Or do you have an image in your head of something you “should” be or do to be successful today?  Let go of the external image of who you think you should be, and embrace who you really are.

Your design is perfectly aligned with your purpose.

Embrace this truth, be yourself, and simply have a great day!  You will be so happy you did!

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Do You Lose Your Ideas All of the Time?

If you are like a lot of creative people I know, you scribble your ideas on the back of envelopes on napkins, and on small pieces of paper that—truth be told— will never be seen again.

You write them down because you have the best intentions of following through on them at the right time. You don’t want to forget them.

Or if you are somewhat organized, you have a journal, or bullet journal, or some other method of keeping your ideas, but how do you find the right idea when you need it?

A lot of times, we don’t remember where we put something. But we DO remember WHEN we thought of it.

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The Think Time Life Coaching Planner allows you to dream big when you are making your plans…thinking of everything that comes to mind– even if you’re not going to act on them immediately. 

That way, when you later want to find your idea, you can think, “I was thinking about that in August.”  And, you can flip back to your August Think Time and find your idea relatively easily. 

Your ideas matter. If you can’t find them, how are you going to implement them? 

So, even if you have another scheduler or app you already love, you can use your Think Time planner as an “idea book” or a “brain book” to capture the ideas that matter most. 

So, when it is the right time to implement your ideas, you won’t miss a beat!

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p.s. Have you ever wanted to have a life-coach, but didn’t know where to start?  A little think-time can change your life.

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Just. Do. Something!!

So often, when we think of making a difference in the world, we feel like we need to do something really big.  Then, because we can’t do something big…

We.

Don’t.

Do.

Anything.

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Right before I have had my last two babies, I have been really struck with global issues of poverty and environmental care.  :/

As you parents and grandparents well know, right before you have a baby is not the best time to start a global campaign to change the world. 🙂

Think Time encourages you to be mindful of what you really want.  The first phase—the Dream Phase–guides you to think about things as if there were no obstacles.  Then, the Decide Phase helps you sift and sort the ideas to fit your real life.

So, I gave it some think-time.

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I accepted that I wanted to make a difference in the world and also acknowledged my real season of life.

Then, ideas came to me of how I could do something aligned with my values–even if smaller.

I didn’t ask myself if I could make a difference or not. That would be either/or thinking—which is “bad” thinking in the world of Think Time.  Instead, I asked myself the Think Time purpose question: “What can only I do?“

Here are three solutions that came to mind when I asked this question of myself in seasons that would not fit the “go big or go home” mentality.

#1 Poverty. 

Before having my fourth child, I was personally struck with the needs of the poor. When I applied a little think-time and asked what only I could do, I realized… 

  • I live in one of the most privileged cities in our hemisphere. 
  • I also realized I have a friend who works with underprivileged expectant women in the poorest country in our hemisphere—Haiti.
  • The third thing that came to mind is our shared passion of supporting the bond between moms and babies.  

What came of this?  My first annual “Haiti Baby Carrier Drive!”  Now, I had never done anything like this.  However, when I thought about it, all I had to do was make a website page, drop off some boxes in strategic locations, and tell people about it. Then, all I needed to do is collect the baby carriers and ship them to my friend.  

She was already doing the educational work with the young moms.  Voila!  A Think Time Solution!  

Guess what happened!  I didn’t save the world.  (That is Someone else’s job.) However, my friend later told me that there were four preemies born at just the time the carriers arrived.  The midwives believed that these carriers given by generous moms in Dallas may have helped save their lives.  I am so glad I gave some think-time to what was on my heart and didn’t think that because I had a full plate, I couldn’t do anything.

#2 The Environment.

As I write this blog, I have eight weeks until baby number five is due. This time, however, I am struck with the enormity of global environmental issues. (Rumor has it that frogs may be getting hurt due to chemicals we are putting into the ground.  My kids and I don’t like that.)

Well, I cannot do everything.  However, maybe I can do one thing.  So I asked myself, “What can only I do?” 

And is there anything small I can do?  

Here’s what came to mind.  I have a couple friends who sell chemical free products. One sells cleaning cloths that allow you to clean your house without chemicals. Another sells chemical free make up.  So, I thought, “Why don’t I host a party?”  I love parties. They will do all the work.  I will have all the fun. A small difference could be made.  Voilà. A think-time solution.

#3 Think Time.

The fact that you were reading this blog right now is a result of this same process. 

Throughout my life, I’ve been passionate about helping people to move beyond perceived obstacles toward their dreams and their unique purpose. 

So, I looked at what I had. I am a Licensed Professional Counselor. I have had experience working with people as a therapist with brain injured patients. I have over a decade of leadership training. I have graduate level training in creative thinking.

But.  I also have young children.

So, I did not create a coaching business that would take me all over the world during this season.

I recognized my desire to be very present with my husband and kids during this unique season of having young children.  

But.

I still wanted to help people.

So, I created a product that would help people in the same way I would help them if I was sitting across the room from them or teaching from a platform.

Voila!  A Think Time solution!


What is it that you really want to do but tend to think you cannot accomplish because of your season of life?

Is there a reduced vision of this dream that you can move toward?

Is there something that only you can do in this field that no one else can? 

Give it some think-time and see what surfaces! 

Get clarity on what you really want.  Reduce it to fit your season of life.

You may be surprised at the difference one person really can make–even when life is busy, distracting, and demanding!

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Clarity Takes Hard Work.

I recently spent three hours with a friend who is gifted in organization.  She helped me to sift and sort through four ages of kids clothes, creating donation bags, and organizing the “keepers” in accessible bins.

As I look into my kids’ closet after all that work, the takeaway I had was, “Clarity takes hard work.”

After three full hours of two of us working nonstop, there is clarity in my kids’ closets and drawers.  It is clear which clothes are for each child. It is clear what I have and what I need to purchase for the next season. It is clear where my children need to return their clothes when they are clean.

This clarity feels good. 


 

I will admit, however, I am exhausted after sifting and sorting 1 million little pieces of fabric.  It hurts my brain!

However, I wouldn’t go back and do anything differently. That job needed to be done. And we will all benefit from the hard work applied to that task.  

This clarity is peaceful.  

This clarity is productive.

This clarity is worth the hard work.


This process reminds me of the hard mental & emotional work we put into the Think Time process.  It takes work to cast a clear vision, to decide what stays and what needs to go, and how to place activities into the correct containers (or boxes on our calendars).  

In the middle of the process, it feels a bit messy, and tough calls have to be made.  “Yeses” need to be identified.  “Nos” need to be bravely stated. 

Perseverance will ensure the job is well done.

The process takes hard work. 


But, when it is all over…

This clarity is peaceful.

This clarity is productive.

This clarity is worth it!  

As you take time to think-time this week, ask yourself if you are putting in the work to really get the clarity you need to move forward in peace and confidence.   

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p.s. Have you ever wanted to have a life-coach, but didn’t know where to start?  A little think-time can change your life.

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“That’s When The Kids Came.” On Repurposing Our Goals.

Life is not all about achieving our goals.

It’s about living our lives.

Sometimes we set aside our goals for a time to live more fully focused on what matters more.  In other words, we repurpose our goals…we shift our focus.


I was recently talking with a friend who adopted a sibling set of three a few years ago.  She was describing their move to the city and all of the renovations she and her husband completed on their home.  Then, she described a specific location where the renovations stopped.

“That’s when the kids came.”

Her adoption process turned out to involve an incredibly short wait, and when her kids arrived, there was no turning back to finish renovations!

There was not a hint of regret in her voice.  It was clear where her priorities were.  Welcoming these precious kids into her life immediately took precedence over home renovations. What had been important a month earlier now was not even being considered for time and attention.

This is good.

We do well to constantly reevaluate our priorities according to our season of life and adjusting accordingly.

Life is meant to be lived to the full in the present.


Do you have some things on your calendar that reflect old priorities?  Do your best to let these go and focus fully on your current season of life.

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Are You Comfortable Feeling Incompetent? You Should Be.

On a 2017 episode of The EntreLeadership Podcast, Ken Coleman interviewed author and entrepreneur Seth Godin.  Ken introduced him as one of the most brilliant thinkers of our time.

Seth then completed the interview, and he did not disappoint.

He says that if we are to change (hear: grow!) we must be comfortable with feeling incompetent.

Seth continued.

Often people do not change because they don’t want to be uncomfortable and feel incompetent.

He says this feeling of incompetence, however, is often a prerequisite to growth and change. 

People who resist these negative feelings are less likely to grow…less likely to change.

How can we apply this understanding? 

Well, if you are a leader in an organization–which many of you are–one take-away, Seth suggests, is to not be surprised when your people do not immediately embrace the change you want to bring into your company.

You likely hired these people for their competence, so don’t be surprised when they resist the feelings of incompetence that come with new initiatives.  Be patient with them.

Also, as you go forward, hire people who are not only competent, but also curious and humble…in other words, they are willing to go through the negative feelings of incompetence because they value change and growth more than always feeling competent.

It may take a little longer in the interviewing process, but it will be worth it in the long run.

How can I apply this in my personal life?

Be aware of this dynamic any time you are presented with something new (for instance, a planning process like Think Time that is a little different than everyone else…moving beyond mere lines and words and including new techniques like visualization, drawing, and mind-mapping).

Embrace the fact that you may be naturally inclined to resist things that are good for you because you don’t want to feel incompetent.

Have a conscious dialogue with yourself before you say “no” to a great opportunity.

Are you resisting because you are uncomfortable with feelings of incompetence?

Can you reframe the feelings of incompetence to mean that you are making progress toward change and growth?

Can you use this new understanding to set yourself on a new learning trajectory this coming year?

Be encouraged.  Because and not many people are willing to move through the uncomfortable feelings of incompetence, you can quickly set yourself apart from your competition by embracing it as a prerequisite for growth and change.  Embrace this mindset tip, and you are already a step ahead.

What are your thoughts?

What is one thing you have learned that has changed your life? 

Was it uncomfortable at first to learn it?

Are you glad you learned it in spite of your initial resistant feelings?

Please tell us about it in the comments below.

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More is Less

Last week, I reminded you of the truth that often: Less is more.

 

This week, I want to remind you that often… More is less.

Sometimes, we say “yes” too quickly.  There are so many wonderful opportunities!  When we say “yes” to too many of them, unfortunately, our most important YESes are unintentionally told NO.

Let’s quickly discuss a few.

Relationships.  Unfortunately, when we say “yes” to too much, it is often our dearest relationships that suffer the most.  As people, we are designed to live in quality connections with others.  When we are busy about many things, this is one of the first things to give.  We’ve all experienced this.

Health.  Sometimes we push ourselves so hard to keep up with our “yeses” that we neglect our nutrition, our rest, and our exercise.  We are designed to be dependent on these basic needs to deliver our best results.  Unfortunately, cheating our health is a temporary fix that our bodies will not allow us to do for long.  (Read one man’s story here.) When we neglect our health, we often sabotage our future success.  Oops.

Quality and excellence.  You’ve experienced this–from other people of course. ; ) You are working on a team project and someone who says “yes” to too many things is routinely the one who is dropping the ball or producing shoddy work.  It hurts the quality of the delivered result.  They feel like they are doing “everything they can” but you know there were a lot of choices before that point of crisis that led to the embarrassing results.  The last thing you want is to be “that person” in someone else’s life!  You know how it feels on the other side!

This is why it is worth a little think-time to get really clear on your “YESes.”  Only then will you know where to confidently apply your “NOs.”  Then, you will have more of what you want.  And less of what you don’t want.

And, you can confidently live your life focused on what matters most.

How have you seen More as Less in your life?  Please comment below.

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Less is More

As you move into your week this week, keep this #thinktimethought at the front of your mind.

Less is more.

Print out the picture and post it where you will see it often.  Apply it broadly and often and see how your week is changed.

So much of life is identifying the few things that deserve our whole-hearted “YES!”

If you want to go deeper and applying this practically, check out this blog on the 80/20 Rule or this blog on just saying “Yes!”

Leave this page open on your browser, and as you notice a difference in your life this week, tell us about it below!

 

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5 Steps to Becoming An Effective Delegator

By Guest Writer: Bryan Miles, CEO and Co-founder of BELAY

Delegation may not always come naturally to you, and for some of us, we are constantly trying to perfect this area of leadership. It’s worth striving for perfection because when you have motivated people who trust you, you’ll see your business propelled forward. Simon Sinek says this of delegation: “You have to earn trust by communicating and demonstrating that you share the same values and beliefs. You have to talk about your WHY and prove it with WHAT you do. Again, a WHY is just a belief, HOWs are the actions we take to realize that belief, and WHATs are the results of those actions. When all three are in balance, trust is built and value is perceived.”

Here are a few key points that I have realized over the years to help me perfect my “Art of Delegation”. Take what works for you and make it your own in your journey to building trust with your team.

Start With the End in Mind

1)  Delegation to me is “beginning with the end in mind.”  Meaning … asking those on my team to execute tasks that serve an ultimate purpose and either solve a problem or move our business forward.  Assigning these tasks help me free up space/time in my day so that I can take care of the “one-offs” and critical daily tasks that I, as a Leader, need to attend to.

2)  When you delegate, delegate a result not a task.  What is the end result that you are looking for?  Give your teammate and/or employee the opportunity to work toward a goal and then celebrate the result with them.  Not only will you give them something to celebrate but you have also given them a sense of ownership and responsibility for their projects/efforts.

3)  Don’t delegate things you love doing.  In most cases, the things you HATE to do take more time to do and distract you from the goals you are working toward.  Delegate those tasks to team members who are more qualified and or patient and willing to execute those items so you won’t be bogged down by doing them.

4)  Express to your team the WHY behind the WHAT so they can feel passionate about the projects they are executing. Understand that people will strive and toil … and the WHY can fuel them.

5)  Be mindful of the tasks you ask others to execute (from a timing and knowledge-base perspective) and express gratitude to them when tasks are complete.  This creates a greater relationship with you and your employees and makes you someone they will want to follow.

You don’t have to jump in with all these ideas at once. Try a few out and see what happens when you focus on the why behind your tasks and the ultimate result you want with each delegation assignment.

The art of delegation isn’t just about you as a leader though and how you divvy out assignments. Delegating is about knowing your team and the powerful part they play in the process. When employees know your motivation and recognize your trust, they feel more connected to the mission of your business. When there is trust, you will then see a healthier bottom line, which translates directly into everyone’s success.

In our next blog, we delve into understanding the role your employees play in delegation.

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On Battling “Busy”

What gets in between you and living a full, connected, meaningful life?

When Shauna Niequist, author of Present over Perfect, asked herself this question, she came up with one clear answer–being “busy.”

She shares, “A few years ago, I found myself exhausted and isolated, my soul and body sick. I was tired of being tired, burned out on busy. And, it seemed almost everyone I talked with was in the same boat: longing for connection, meaning, depth, but settling for busy…”

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“Busy” is one of the strongest enemies of living on purpose.

But, how do we fight “busy” and win–when everyone and everything around us seems to be moving toward this ever-pulsing beat?

There seems to be no other way…

Or is there?

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Here are a few ways to start your battle against busyness:

Develop a clear and compelling vision of what your purposeful life looks like.  This is the place to start–at the end.  Imagine yourself looking back on your life.  What does wild success look like?

Align your activities to this vision.  Brainstorm ways you can bring this vision to fruition.  Place these on your calendar first.  These activities will help you become who you want to be, so they need to take precedence over “other stuff.”

Say “no” to just about everything else.  This sounds hard, but with a clear and compelling vision of what matters most, it is not actually as hard as you think.  While it is often hard to say “no” without a clear vision,  once you have a clear vision of where you are going and why, the “nos” become obvious, nearly effortless, and often even joyous!

When you look back over your future life, what do you want to see?

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