“Shower Thoughts”

Have you ever noticed when you have your a-ha moments?

They are usually in the shower.

Do you know why this is?

All other distractions are finally turned off. You can’t hear anything. You’re not having a conversation. You haven’t thought intentionally about what you were going to do with your shower time. You are just taking a shower.

It is during these times that we have our most insightful moments. This is because our brain is involved in something called “drift thinking.“

According to Edward Hallowell in his book Driven to Distraction at Work: How to Focus and Be More Productive our brain is particularly active when we are not thinking about anything in particular.

  • Our social cognition is boosted.
  • Our executive functioning is strengthened.
  • Our brain’s Default Neural Network is very active.

So, we are more likely to connect important dots when we are in the shower!


As you go throughout your week, ask yourself if you’re building into your schedule time when you’re not focused on anything in particular.

This practice is really great for your brain.

It is really great for your life.

Does your planner encourage you to allow your mind to drift as part of your productivity strategy?  If not, check out the Think Time Life-Coaching Planner that encourages this practice as foundational to becoming who you want to be and getting the right things done.

 

Are You Bored?  You Should Be!

A new book was released last fall called Bored and Brilliant: How Spacing Out can Unlock Your Most Productive and Brilliant Self.  

In this work, Manoush Zomodori uses cutting-edge research and examples from the lives of real people to demonstrate how more time to be bored can help you lead a life that is happier, more productive and more creative.

Yay Manoush!  You hit the nail on the head!

I am so excited about the research that is continually being released on this topic–that time to allow our minds to wander–to have think-time–is the first step to gaining traction toward what matters most.

At Think Time, we call this “drift thinking,” and it is absolutely foundational to our Dream, Decide, Do + Review process in our Life-Coaching Planners.

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People are getting it.  When we stuff so much into our lives that we are never bored, we are not getting more done.  We are instead reducing our effectiveness!

When we let our mind wander, amazing things happen in our brain.

This week, ask yourself, “Am I bored?“ And if not, figure out how to get there. 🙂 Your best insights, productivity and relational breakthroughs will occur and your life will be changed.

How do you help yourself get bored?

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What’s The Big Idea? On Thinking About Our Thinking.

It’s been a great week for me.  I have been doing some mini trainings here in Dallas as well as virtually with some online groups online.  It has been refreshing for me to think “big picture” about our message and distill it into simplicity for those who have never heard about Think Time.

What are some of our big picture thoughts?  Let’s start with a quote from Uncle Al!

“We cannot solve our problems with the same THINKING we used when we created them.”  — Albert Einstein

Take a moment and write or draw some of the successes you are experiencing and some of the problems you are facing in your life.

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Some things are going well, and other things are not.  In the areas in which we are struggling or stuck, we need to develop new ways to think about things.  Then, we can get unstuck.

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Psychologist Henry Cloud notes that 90% of the thoughts we have today are the same thoughts we had yesterday.

While this has worked well for us in many areas in life, there are areas in life in which our old habits are no longer serving us.  Instead, they are actually hindering us.  When we rise above our thoughts and think about our thinking, new neural pathways begin to form and we can begin to get unstuck.

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This is the heart of what we are doing at Think Time.  We are practicing healthy thinking over and over again…sort of “trying on” the thinking patterns of top performers and wise people.  The more we practice these thinking patterns, over and over again, the stronger these new neural pathways will grow, and we can begin to get unstuck.

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Co-Founder, Think Time

 

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On Life Balance: Protect Your Focus

You know what it is like to finally have the time to sit down and work on that project you’ve been wanting to do…

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But.

You’ve.

Got.

Nothing.

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Your mind won’t stop wandering.

You simply cannot bring about the results you want.

Simply put, you cannot focus.

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There are a lot of secrets to boosting your focus, and nine are woven into the Think TimeTM 3DR Process.  However, we are going to talk about one other strategy I believe is foundational to all of the others.  Without it, when you are ready to focus, you simply won’t be able to.

With it, you will exponentially increase your mind’s ability to focus on demand.

This strategy is so underutilized in our culture, that if you apply it, you will immediately gain a decided edge.

Without it, your mind will simply not have refueled sufficiently to bring about the focus you need.

Are you ready?

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Make the most of your time by allowing your mind to Drift.

Allowing your mind to Drift will–among other things–actually boost your brain’s ability to focus.

When your mind Drifts, your brain is actually quite active.

If you were to take an MRI image of your brain when you’re not thinking about anything in particular, it would be incredibly colorful.  A part of your brain called the Default Neural Network (DNN) is activated.  When the DNN is active, executive functioning skills such as focusing are strengthened.

So, set some time aside this week to allow your mind to Drift.  Take a walk without your phone.  Drive without the radio.  Pause before a meeting simply to “be.”

And, afterwards, you will be better able to focus like you need.

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This world is sooo distracting!

What would you do if you could finally focus?

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On Life Balance: Protect Your Health (2/6)

One thing we can never delegate to anyone else is protecting our health.

Only we can control what we eat, when we go to bed, and how much we exercise.

The necessity of protecting our health is just about as much of a scientific “law” as gravity.  Sure there are variables, but the big picture is–ignore your body’s need for health and it will break down.

Rather than repeat what other writers have eloquently stated regarding eating better foods, sleeping adequately, and exercising well, I am going to share with you two stories in the next two blogs.

Two thought leaders I really respect have stories of seasons in their lives in which they thought they could cheat the “law of health.”  These seasons of their lives became pivotal points of change and dramatically altered the rest of their live’s timelines–their mission and their audience

I will tell you the first story today.

It is of a pastor– Tommy Nelson.

Tommy graduated from my alma mater and spoke on his experience when I was a student.  He is a globally known pastor and teacher.  Among other things, he is known for his series on the Song of Solomon, leading a top notch mentorship program, and a definitive country accent.  Extremely driven and disciplined, for years, he kept an incredibly rigorous schedule.

…until he got “hijacked” by something.

He had no idea what it was.

Before he experienced it, he didn’t know it existed.

After going through “it,” however, he discovered that theologians Charles Spurgeon and Martin Luther, scientist Sir Isaac Newton and many other world-shakers had experienced the same thing.  A recent Newsweek article stated that half of the fortune 500 CEOs had had it.  Next, 80+ billion dollars was lost in one year due to lost wages and time off of work because of it.

He described “it” as a “joyless, agoraphobic black hole… a hopeless, despairing spiral.    It is scary.  It is lonely.”

Tommy had pain all over his body.  He found himself unable to think.  He was on a fetal position on the floor.  He went to the hospital twice but was told his health was perfect.

“I couldn’t sleep from May until November.”

He expected it to go away, but instead over months it only escalated.

Though initially resistant, he finally sought help with a counselor and a psychiatrist.  The psychiatrist told him that he was “a garden variety of depression and anxiety that comes from hyper-stress over years.  Finally, your body says, ‘That’s all.'”

His psychiatrist educated him about the neurotransmitter Serotonin.  “Serotonin allows your central nervous system to function.”  Stress depletes Serotonin.  Continued stress will eliminate it.  “It’s like an engine that doesn’t have oil.  The phenomena is called, ‘depression’ or the flip side is ‘acute anxiety.'”

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Tommy shared, “I didn’t know you could get totally burned out doing something you loved.”

He kept an insane schedule every day of the week writing books, counseling, mentoring, and speaking all over the country.

“I was at the top of my game.”

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The doctor told him he would need to deal with his schedule.  He also started him on medicines called SSRIs that prevented the reuptake of Serotonin so his body would not continue to deplete its supply.

Tommy also saw a counselor who “had been there.”  He said the counselor could help “talk him down because he understood.”

After about a month of the medicine, Tommy said, “Something lifted.”  A month later, he experienced “feeling good” again.  The next month, he began preaching again.

“You don’t feel different.  You feel like you.”

I had to cut out about 60% of my schedule, but the happiness came back.

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“What did I learn from this?”

“I learned to rest.”

“I learned that you can get completely burned out doing what you love.”

“I learned that we can’t take anything for granted.  You can get screwed up really quick.”

“Finally, I learned empathy.  So many people have gone or are going through this.  I had pastored the church since 1977 and people in my congregation came out of the woodwork.  They described the same ‘fetal position on the floor’ experience I had had.”

 

What did Tommy want people in the helping professions like the pastors and counselors in our school to learn?

#1 “Rest.”

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#2 Be aware of your culture.  “Our culture produces stress like sweets produce decay.”

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#3 Be aware of yourself. “Quite often people fall into this out of feelings of great responsibility.”

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Tommy also shared that he wanted people to not be resistant to taking medicine.  “Our mind is not a given.  It is not this separate entity.  Our mind is affected by a lot of things.”

Years later, Tommy later shared with his congregation that he was still unable to get off of his medicine.  He felt like this would be something that he may need to deal with for the rest of his life.

At times, a prolonged season of stress–this can stem from unresolved grief, doing too much of what we love, emotional stress, or simply always being over-busy–can impact the rest of our entire lives.

Tommy’s counselor shared with him that many of the people who go through a depression like he experienced also go through a divorce during that time.  “When they said ‘for better or for worse,’ they weren’t thinking this.”

Tommy expressed thankfulness that his wife stuck with him through the entire experience.  (Maybe it had something to do with all of his decades of work in applying what he taught on Romance from the Song of Solomon.)  ; )

What are your thoughts?  Is it a new idea to think that too much of a good thing could bring such a dramatic health crisis to your life?  Have you walked through this with a loved one?  Please comment and share.

Next time, I’ll share a story about how pushing too hard led to a physical health crisis and what one man did about it.

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Christine M. Wilson, LPC
Co-Founder, Think Time

Tweetable  Blog Highlights

One thing we can never delegate to anyone else is protecting our health. Read more: http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz

Only we can control what we eat, when we go to bed, and how much we exercise. Read more: http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz

The necessity of protecting our health is just about as much of a scientific “law” as gravity. Read more: http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz

“I didn’t know you could get totally burned out doing something you loved.” –Tommy Nelson @dentonbible

[I was not expecting this.] “I was at the top of my game.” –Tommy Nelson @dentonbible Read more: http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz

“Our mind is affected by a lot of things.”  –Tommy Nelson @dentonbible Read more: http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz

Stress depletes Serotonin.  Continued stress will eliminate it.  Read more: http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz

“Rest.” –Tommy Nelson @dentonbible Read more: http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz

Be aware of your culture.  “Our culture produces stress like sweets produce decay.” –Tommy Nelson @dentonbible

Be aware of yourself. “Quite often people fall into this out of feelings of great responsibility.” –Tommy Nelson  @dentonbible

At times, a prolonged season of stress can impact the rest of our entire lives. – Christine Wilson @taketimetothinktime http://ow.ly/B3Wd30jHunz

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What is your YES?

As I write this, I am flying on a Southwest flight from Dallas to Atlanta.  The back of my cocktail napkin says, “In a world full of “NOs”, we are a plane full of “YES!”

These people are marketing geniuses!  They know every one of their passengers wants to hear “YES,” and they are soooo right!!

Isn’t “YES” what all of us really want to hear?

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We are tired of roadblocks and barriers.  We want to set a course and move with all of our being toward a desired goal, and…

above all…

We don’t want to hear, “NO.”

While some might see this trait as stubborn or as a negative, I would like to suggest that this trait in each person is reflective of an important reality.  Each of us has an innate design to be in charge—to make important decisions that define our lives.

This design is reflected in our biology.  Deep inside our brains, we have a little area that specializes in freedom of choice.  It helps to regulate our motivation and drive.  When we feel freedom of choice this little part in our brain actually increases our motivation and drive, and as a result, we are more engaged in our own lives.

Conversely, when we feel we have no say in our lives, when we feel that no matter what we do the results will be the same, we can become more apathetic.

This week, I encourage you to take a moment to exercise your freedom of choice and identify some “yeses” that are important to you in your life.  To do this, use the following questions as #ponderprompts as you #taketimetothinktime.

Who do I want to be?  What are my big “YESes?”

What do I want to do?  What are by big “YESes?”

 

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Of course, exercising your freedom of choice, boosting your motivation, and identifying your big yeses are woven into Think Time’s 3DR process.  Don’t have your Think Time yet?  Shop here.

The Discovery

Some people like to wake up in the morning and check things off their list.

I like to wake up slowly, sip something warm, and quietly enter the new day.

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Some people love powering through projects.

I would rather read a friend’s doctoral dissertation than take on organizing a closet.

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Some people can stay focused on their goal and get it done.

I tend to get distracted by sentimental stuff…

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Three years ago, I found myself as a mother of three kids four and under.  As if all of a sudden, our household required 21 meals a week for 5 people and the organization of a million pieces of clothes—and all of this on very little continuous sleep.  There was nap time, play time, and tummy time—but very little me time.

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I was in over my head.

It was in this context that I wanted to organize our garage.  I wanted to be able to walk in my garage and set my hand on a spring season 6-9 month dress when I needed it.  This time, instead of plunging straight into the task, I was going to try something new.  I had a hunch it would work, and I was getting excited.

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This time, instead of diving in, I sat down and began to draw.  I drew what I wanted to see when I was done.   I created a simple sketch inside the box with shelving and clear plastic bins labeled with the correct items inside.

By the end of the day, I took a picture of my completed project.  It looked exactly like my sketch!  The many inputs that normally would have pulled me off task—didn’t.  It felt as though I had a shield around me off which the fiery darts of distraction bounced.

I had never experienced this before.

I immediately went to my freezer and tried it there.  Success.

Closets.  Success.

Schedule.  Success.

Finances.  Success.

Relationships.  Success.

It seemed I was accessing a part of my mind that I had never been introduced to before.

And, it turns out, that’s exactly what was happening.

I spent the next three years learning more and more about this powerful process.  What I had stumbled upon was a combination technique.  It turns out that this technique we now call The Envision Box was linking a powerful principle, a simple strategy, and a motivation and focus enhancing method—all in one.  The principle I was using was to “Begin with the end.”  The strategy was “Visualization.”  The method was “Drawing.”

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Begin with the End.

When you Begin with the End, you begin, not with the beginning, but with the ending.  You clearly define where you are going and then work back from there—making steps to it from where you are.  Just as you would never go on a trip without clearly marking the destination and mapping out the journey, we should never start an important project—or even a day—without beginning with the end.

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Visualization

Visualization is creating a clear picture in your mind.  When you link this with beginning with the end, you use this process to clearly see and feel the end that you desire.  You visualize as viscerally as possible what your completed goal will be like.  Engage as many of your senses in this process as you can.

The data on visualization is unquestionable.  Olympic athletes are trained to use this method to visualize their performance at the games and top executives routinely visualize their days each morning.

The secret about visualization is that when your brain sees and feels something this clearly, your subconscious moves toward it—even when you are not “thinking” about it.  This is why the fiery darts of distraction bounce off.  Your whole being is moving toward something very specific, and when other inputs enter your mind, you know deep down that they are not part of the story you have written in your mind…and the distractions literally melt away.

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Nearly all Productivity Systems for decades have utilized the strategy of writing down your goals with words only.  This process is good and has helped many to achieve their goals.

However, we now know this method is no longer the best.

What if I told you that you could improve on this time-tested process by tweaking the way you write your desires down?

What if I suggested that you draw it clearly before you write it?

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Drawing does special stuff in the brain, to calm us down, to motivate us, and to focus us.  And, in our highly distracting, over-stressed world, this is exactly what you need to give you the edge.

The Envision Box is considered the Keystone Tool of Think Time.  Its power cannot be overstated.  It really is so powerful that it can turn an entire week around in only a few minutes of uninterrupted focus.  It can be used across all areas of life.

 

I still do not consider myself necessarily organized or efficient…yet.  I still prefer a latte to a ledger.  But, I am getting the right things done with improved focus and motivation like never before.  After continuing to test this method and confirming its continuous delivery of results, I felt it was a stewardship to share this discovery with you.

 

And, this is Think Time.

 

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We have a serious problem.  We are losing valuable time.

We have created an innovative process to help people clarify their vision and move it into their lives so they can focus on what matters most.

This is Think Time.

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I tend to get distracted.  @thinktimetweets

Create a clear picture in your mind.  @thinktimetweets

Clearly define where you are going and then work back from there. @thinktimetweets

Draw it before you write it. #thinktime @taketimetothinktime

Drawing does special stuff in the brain, to calm us down, to motivate us, and to focus us. #drawit #thinktime

The Envision Box can turn an entire week around in only a few minutes of uninterrupted focus.  #envisionbox

I am getting the right things done with improved focus and motivation like never before. #thinktime

 

 

 

 

Take the Pressure Off – Break Your Goals Into Smaller Steps

“Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss you’ll land among the stars.” That is, only “if you break it into smaller steps,” says Jon Acuff.

It is important to dream big to allow your mind to identify what is dear to you.  However, it is equally important that you approach your strategy for goal achievement in a way that works.

In his new book Finish: Give Yourself the Gift of Done, Acuff discusses findings from his research on goal achievement and shares some counterintuitive strategies that really work!  He says they might even feel like cheating!

The bottom line is: lofty goal-setting alone will not lead to the success you want.

Acuff shares his findings: “The most effective exercises were not those that pushed people to work harder. The ones that got people to the finish line did just the opposite— they took the pressure off.”

Why is this?

Acuff explains, “Because the sneakiest obstacle to meeting your goals is not laziness, but perfectionism. We’re our own worst critics, and if it looks like we’re not going to do something right, we prefer not to do it at all. That’s why we’re most likely to quit on day two, ‘the day after perfect’—when our results almost always underper­form our aspirations.”

Acuff recommends breaking big dreams into smaller steps.  For instance, if you want to lose ten pounds, try aiming for five first.

Acuff explains that we usually judge goal achievement psychologically in a pass or fail framework.  So, if we lose 8 pounds when our goal is 10 pounds, we feel like a failure and become discouraged instead of looking at the gains (pun intended) we have truly made by losing 8 pounds!

So, try losing five pounds first.  Then, try another five after that.

Think Time Purpose Planners are designed with this research-backed method of goal-achievement in mind.  Rather than only having daily, weekly, OR monthly time segments, all Think Time Purpose Planners contain the following: one yearly, four quarterlies, twelve monthlies, and fifty-two weeklies.  In addition, the Think Time process of Dream, Decide, Do and Review inherently encourages envisioning, editing and execution.

…So, you can dream big AND organize these dreams into manageable steps that boost your motivation to achieve them rather than dry up your energy.  With Think Time you take action and make traction with your smaller steps while keeping the big dreams in mind!

Christine Wilson

LPC, Co-Founder of Think Time

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Blog Highlights:

Approach your strategy for goal achievement in a way that works.  @thinktimetweets http://ow.ly/o3lS30f9F8M

The most effective goal achievement exercises take the pressure off. @authorjonacuff http://ow.ly/o3lS30f9F8M

Think Time’s process of Dream, Decide, Do and Review inherently encourages envisioning, editing and execution. @thinktimetweets http://ow.ly/o3lS30f9F8M

Dream big AND organize these dreams into manageable steps.  @thinktimetweets http://ow.ly/o3lS30f9F8M

With Think Time you take action and make traction with your smaller steps while keeping the big dreams in mind! http://ow.ly/o3lS30f9F8M

 

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The Downside of Positive Thinking

How could there possibly be a downside to positive thinking?

Isn’t it all…well…positive?

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Gabriele Oettingen, Professor of Psychology at NYU, says that positive thinking alone can actually deter you from achieving your dreams.

 

How can that be?

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In the research, people who dream big with unrealistic “positive fantasies” actually perform less well than their peers.

Having high hopes with unrealistic expectations does not improve one’s chances of accomplishing what one desires; instead, it serves to decrease one’s energy toward the goal.

For instance, a student who has a big test and fantasizes positively about doing well on the exam–according to the research–performs less well than her peer who dreams big about doing well on the exam but also takes into consideration what obstacles lie in her way.

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Oettingen states, “If you complement these fantasies with what stands in the way then you’ll actually get the energy.  And if these goals are attainable, you’ll really go for it.”

She affirms dreaming about what you really want.  “Noticing your dreams and thinking about what you really want can be the first step in making them a reality.”

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What do you do next?

Oettingen recommends identifying “a wish that is very dear to you.”  Then, after you have done this, “Switch gears and ask, ‘What is it in me that stands in the way?'”

Really look the obstacle in the face.

Then, make a plan.

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Ask yourself, “If this obstacle occurs, what behavior will I do?”

According to the research, moving through these steps is the best way to move through hurdles to accomplish what matters most to you.

Oettingen’s research demonstrates well the “why” behind the Think Time Life Leadership Process.

The system is four step: “Dream – Decide – Do + Review.”

It moves you through identifying, as Oettingen says, “what is dear to you” on a regular basis and moving these visions into your real life.

 

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Think Time guides you to dream big and then to confront the obstacles that lie within you–boosting your chances of taking the actual steps necessary to accomplish your goals.

In summary, start with the dream.  Just don’t stop with the dream.

What dreams are near to you today?

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Co-Founder of Think Time

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“Mommy, hold me!”

“Mommy, hold me!”

If you are a parent like I am, you have heard this urgent plea from your baby or toddler.

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When they get a little bit older, it becomes “Watch me!”

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Then, they become a little bit more sophisticated and ask, “Did you see that!?!?” with excitement in their eyes.

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Our attention and our affirmation and our affection build deep feelings of worth into our children that last a lifetime (even on a neurological level).

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Whether you stay at home, work at home, or work outside the home, you know like I do that there are many things fighting against these precious and irreplaceable moments of connection.

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The amount of distractions we face feel insurmountable in this current Information Age.

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We’ve all talked about it with our friends and colleagues.

It.

Is.

So.

Hard.

Focusing on what matters most is truly at a premium.

 

Focusing on what matters most is truly at a premium.

 

Keith and I have been setting aside regular time to identify and focus on what matters most for about two years using the tools of Think Time.  During this time, the pressures have not subsided–in fact, they have dramatically increased!

However, we do feel like we are making great headway in planning for and creating special routines that allow for regular, unhurried and focused attention with our kids…even during busy seasons!

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If your life is anything like ours, then you know this is a major win.

It’s been a journey of trial and error for us, but we feel like we are getting there.  Slowly but surely, these precious moments are increasingly a part of our lives.

The pressures haven’t changed, but our actions have!

And this has made all the difference.

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Our attention and our affirmation and our affection build deep feelings of worth into our children.

There are many things fighting against precious and irreplaceable moments of connection.

Set aside regular time to identify and focus on what matters most.

Plan for and create special routines that allow for regular, unhurried and focused attention.

Make headway–even in busy seasons!

It.  Is.  So.  Hard.

Focusing on what matters most is truly at a premium.

The pressures haven’t changed, but our actions have!

Taking action has made all the difference.

 

Please tell me, if you could do anything, what would you do first with your kids?

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Christine Wilson, LPC

Co-Founder of Think Time

 

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