How to Live From the Inside Out: Four Simple Tweaks

So often, when we make our daily plans, we think from the outside-in, not the inside-out.

 

We think of what we “have” to do.

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We allow other people’s priorities to become our plans.

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We bounce from activity to activity—exhausted but not really accomplishing much.

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How can we reverse this?

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How can we live from the inside out?

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How can we live a life full of what we truly want to do?

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How can we live a life that is full of our own priorities—driven by a deep sense of purpose?

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The answer may surprise you!

 

Are you ready?

 

Can you handle the truth?

You can’t handle the truth.

“I can handle the truth!!” you say?

 

Okay, here it is.

 

Use your whole brain to plan your whole life.

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That’s it.

It’s that simple.

It’s that revolutionary.

For decades we have been literally using half of our brain to make our plans.  Starting with convergent, left-brain thinking, we incessantly begin with the plan rather than the dream.

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Think Time’s Life Leadership system is structured to reverse this.

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Here’s why:

Everything you have ever experienced—real or imagined—is stored deep within your brain.  Over time, you have developed ways of making decisions, and you have formed compelling images of what you really want.

That means, when you are desiring to discover your life’s purpose, you must get in touch with these deep parts of your brain.  And, when you want to discover how to get unstuck from lifelong habits and hangups—you guessed it—many of the answers lie hidden deep within your brain.

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There’s a catch.

This deep part of your brain is literally not accessible through words.

That’s right.

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Words are a left-brained thing, and the left-brain is not connected to the whole brain like the right brain is.

The right-brain is more thoroughly connected to the deeper parts of the brain.  So, to get in touch with these deep parts of the brain, we need to somehow engage the right brain.

How can we engage the right brain?

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I am glad you asked!  Following are four steps to engage the right brain.  Doing these simple things will help you gain access to what you really want and allow you to get unstuck as you move toward what matters most.

1.  Think big picture.  The right brain is all about thinking big picture.  Ask yourself what wild success looks like.  Literally “see” into the future through visualizing the best case scenario.

2.  Draw.  Draw a picture what you have envisioned.  Yes. Really. Draw! Stick figures are welcomed!  Images move us.

3.  Use all five senses.  Create clarity around your goals by visualizing further using all of your five senses.

4.  Add color.  Color creates clarity around our images and helps to engage the right brain even more.

Once you have engaged your right brain and allowed yourself to “dream big,” you can then move toward engaging your left brain in making strategic plans, evaluating the parts, and communicating in words.

These simple tweaks to your life planning will prove transformative to living from the inside out—not the outside in.

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Don’t live another day with regret!

Use your whole brain to live your whole life.

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Christine Wilson

Think Time Co-Founder

 Blog Highlights:

We think of what we “have” to do.  @thinktimetweets

We allow other people’s priorities to become our plans.  @thinktimetweets

We bounce from activity to activity—exhausted but not really accomplishing much.  @thinktimetweets

How can we live from the inside out?  @thinktimetweets

How can we live a life full of what we truly want to do?  @thinktimetweets

How can we live a life that is full of our own priorities—driven by a deep sense of purpose?  @thinktimetweets

For decades we have been literally using half of our brain to make our plans.  @thinktimetweets

Begin with the dream.  @thinktimetweets

Engaging the right brain will help you discover what you really want.  @thinktimetweets

Engaging the right brain will allow you to get unstuck as you move toward what matters most.  @thinktimetweets

Don’t live another day with regret.  @thinktimetweets

Use your whole brain to live your whole life.  @thinktimetweets

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Maximize your thinking, uncover what matters most, and drive sustainable life change and results by using your whole brain to plan (and live) your whole life with Think Time’s Dream, Decide, Do, and Review Process.  Shop our Purpose Planners and more at think-time.com.

What is Essential?

Recently I asked myself a simple question: “What is essential?”  

If you have traveled with a baby or have seen anyone travel with a baby with piles of belongings in tow, you may appreciate the unique challenge implicit between the lines of this blog.

My two and a half month old daughter was my traveling companion for this weekend visit to my hometown.  We were returning for a very special wedding.  

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The trip only lasted a day and a half, so I thought I could do it.  I thought I could live on the bare minimum.

To pack for two in a backpack, I asked myself, “What is absolutely essential?”  

Of course, I packed my Think Time, a pen, my phone, and a charger. Then, I added my most essential makeup items, our clothes for the wedding, my baby sling, diapers, wipes, and a few more things.  I evaluated what items I need not duplicate as I stayed with my family.  I wore layers, and I chose one–yes, just one–pair of shoes for the weekend.

It was shocking how little I was able to pack to successfully travel-even with a baby!  

Oddly enough, the book I was going to bring with me did not make the cut. 

Can you guess the title?

That’s right!  How did you know?

Greg McKeown’s new New York Times Best Seller–Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less.

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This refreshing book is full of solutions that involve saying a careful “yes” to only that which is essential.   

While many of us feel frazzled, directionless, and overwhelmed as a way of life, McKeown refreshingly encourages us to pursue only what is essential.  Like my backpack (plus car seat) vacation, what is essential is much less than we think. 

In this blog, I will walk you through some of the tools of Think Time that guide you through evaluating what is essential.  

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The Envision Box: 

When you create a clear vision of where you are going, you can immediately see what actions align with your vision.  High results activities that support your vision are essential.  

The Rosebush: 

When you identify your priorities and actively decide what you will prune to maintain energy and resources for those, you can immediately identify what is essential.

The Serenity Circle: 

When you sketch or write on the inside of the Serenity Circle what is within your responsibility, you can further clarify what is essential.

The Decidere Grid / Decision Columns:

When you filter your actions according to those that give you the most return on your investment, you can immediately see what is essential.  

Calendar Tool:

When you live off your calendar and not only from your to do list, the limited space in your real life again clarifies what is most essential.

Identifying what is essential is “essential” to living a life focused on what matters most.  To do this, allow Think Time’s Dream, Decide, Do, & Review process to guide you through selecting what is essential in your life.  To go deeper on this aspect of taking time to think time, we recommend to you McKeown’s excellent book, Essentialism.

What are some things that are essential in your life?

What is absolutely essential? @thinktimetweets

Many of us feel frazzled, directionless, and overwhelmed as a way of life. @thinktimetweets

The tools of Think Time guide you through evaluating what is essential.  @thinktimetweets 

Use the Envision Box to visualize where you are going.  High results activities that support this vision are essential.

Use The Rosebush to identify your essential priorities. @thinktimetweets 

Actively decide what you will prune to maintain energy and resources for what matters most.  @thinktimetweets 

Use the Serenity Circle to sketch or write what is within your responsibility to clarify what is essential.  @thinktimetweets 

Use the Decide Phase of Think Time to find which actions give you the most return on your investment.  These are essential.  @thinktimetweets

When you live off your calendar and not only from your to do list, the limited space in your real life clarifies what is most essential.  @thinktimetweets

Identifying what is essential is “essential” to living a life focused on what matters most. @thinktimetweets

 

Christine Wilson, LPC

Co-Founder, Think Time

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Achieve Your Goals and Feel Good About It!

Did you know that you are designed to feel good while you achieve your goals?

 

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It’s true!

Wired in your biology is a feedback system that allows you to feel “good” while you pursue what matters to you.

In this blog we will discuss how taking time to Think Time can utilize the dopamine feedback system to boost your energy and improve your motivation as you pursue your goals.

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Dopamine is a biologically based chemical that provides energy and motivation.  Stated simply, when the dopamine reward system is activated, you are biologically encouraged to repeat what you just did.  At the same time, the memory centers of the brain are activated.  They seem to be saying, “Pay close attention to what just happened!  We want this to happen again!”

One of the healthy ways in which you can engage the dopamine reward system is by moving toward clear goals.

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When you take tangible steps toward a goal you clearly have in your mind, you get a shot of dopamine.

This is why setting a clear goal and accomplishing it feels so good.

This is why crossing things off your to do list feels so good.

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This is also why we write things down just to cross them off when we forgot to put it on our to do list.  Crossing it off gives us a shot of dopamine!

This seems too easy.

What’s the catch?

The catch is that you must see your goal clearly.

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None of us pursues vague accomplishments.

Can you imagine it?

“On your mark, get set, go!  Run for a long time!”

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No!

We train to run exactly 13.1 or 26.2 miles!

…and as each mile marker reinforces that we are closer to our goal, we get a shot of dopamine!  This boost enhances our performance by providing energy and motivation toward our clear goal.

We pursue goals that are clear and we feel happy about our accomplishments.

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What do we do with this information?

Now that you know that your brain is giving automatic feedback and energy boosts to areas with clear goals, take some Think Time to assess the clarity that you have created around different areas of your life.

Most of us have clear goals at the gym and at work but we have no clear goals when it comes to marriage, parenting, personal growth, spirituality, money, service, and relationships.

Build clarity in these areas of your life with Think Time’s Think Zones, and notice the difference in how you feel as you pursue your goals.

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Think Zones are included in the Yearly and Quarterly Think Times in Think Time Journal Planners.

Chances are, you are going to feel really good and…

you are going to want to do it again!!

Christine Wilson

Think Time Co-Founder

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Use your whole brain to plan your whole life.

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Blog Highlights

You are designed to feel good while you achieve your goals.  @thinktimetweets 

Boost your energy and improve your motivation as you pursue your goals with Think Time.  @thinktimetweets

When you take tangible steps toward a goal you clearly have in your mind, you get a shot of dopamine. @thinktimetweets

We pursue goals that are clear and we feel happy about our accomplishments.  @thinktimetweets

Your brain is giving automatic feedback and energy boosts to areas with clear goals. @thinktimetweets

Most of us have clear goals at the gym and at work but we have no clear goals when it comes to other important areas of our lives. @thinktimetweets

Assess the clarity that you have created around different areas of your life. @thinktimetweets

Build clarity in more areas of your life with Think Time’s Think Zones. @thinktimetweets

You must see your goal clearly. @thinktimetweets

Just Say…Yes!

Every once in a while in the Wilson household you may hear us all break out into song.

One of our favorites is an old 80s ballad that goes a little something like this:

“You can’t always get what you want.

You can’t always get what you want.

You can’t always get what you want.

But if you try sometimes,

You might just find…

You get what you need.

You get what you need.”

I want to be thin and to eat all of those cookies.

I want to sleep in and accomplish my most important task.

I want to be financially independent and I also want that really cute outfit…now!

One of our favorite self management gurus, Rory Vaden, eloquently says, “A ‘yes’ to one thing is a ‘no’ to an infinite number of other things.”

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Not one of us likes to say “no.” However, once we wrap our minds around the fact that a simple “yes” to just one thing equals “no” to a whole host of other things, we can begin to choose our yeses more carefully.

Then, we can get more of what we really, really want.

Christine Wilson

Co-Founder, Think Time

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Success in the (Not So) Small Stuff

They found me!  Oh no!

Recently on Facebook, I have been greeted by “Sponsored” pages that start like this.  “Four years ago, I lived in my parent’s basement.  But, today, I live in a Manhattan high rise.  I am so successful.  You can be too!  Keep watching and I will tell you how I did it.”

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“I have been able to maintain balance, stay connected, and achieve results during a super full season.” Christine Wilson @thinktimetweets think-time.com 

“Long term wins get us further than money could any day.” Christine Wilson @thinktimetweets think-time.com 

“I am taking care of myself so I can take care of others and maintain energy for the long haul.” Christine Wilson @thinktimetweets think-time.com 

“I now have confidence that important events and people will be remembered and celebrated even during seasons in which life is very full.”  Christine Wilson @thinktimetweets think-time.com 

“Think Time has helped me to maintain balance during what could otherwise be an extremely stressful time.” Christine Wilson @thinktimetweets think-time.com 

They proceed to walk around videoing themselves walking through luxury homes and sailing on yachts while the wind blows through their hair.  All the while, they tell me the story again and again.  “Once I was a loser.  Now I am a winner.  You can be too!  Just be sure to keep watching.”  I never watch long enough to find out if they actually share how they did it.  I don’t think they ever really say.

I think they found me because I do a lot of research for Think Time on living your dreams, fulfilling your purpose, time management, success, goal achievement, and the like.  But, you will not see a video like that from me.  (If you do, kindly send me this blog in a couple of years and tell me to get a life!)

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No, I am a journeyer alongside you.

To me, Think Time was a happy discovery and a blessing.  If you don’t know how Think Time began, you can read it here or listen to it here (select “Think Time as a result of the creative process).  By taking time to Think Time, my ability to accomplish what is important to me has skyrocketed.  By creating clarity around my intentions, the distractions of life that usually paralyze me are not even having an impact.  I am accomplishing what is important to me like I have never been able to before.

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While making money is something worth celebrating, it is not the central measuring stick of success.  Think Time has a broader definition of success.

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Let me share with you what my successes have been just today.

Maintaining Balance

I am in my third trimester as we are renovating a new house for a move.  Our fourth baby is due in only 5 weeks, and time is tight.  For the past several weeks, I have chosen “health” as one of my “prize roses” on my Rosebush Tool.  It serves no one—and especially not our sweet baby—for me to be stressed, to skip exercising, to miss sleep, or to eat poorly.  By empowering me to focus on what matters most, Think Time has helped me to maintain balance during what could otherwise be an extremely stressful time.

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Practically, by choosing to prioritize health, we have committed to few outside activities, allowed others to help us, and hired professionals to tackle some renovation work we would have otherwise tried to accomplish ourselves.  During this season, I am also getting full night’s sleep and taking needed rest breaks throughout the day as I work toward my goals.  By prioritizing my health, I am taking care of myself so I can take care of others and maintain energy for the long haul.  (Remember.  I am about to be taking care of a newborn SOON!  I cannot deplete myself now!)

Staying Connected

As I was taking a big bag of recycling to the bin this evening, I remembered my neighbor’s recent engagement.  I remembered that I wanted to celebrate huge moment with a gift!  This also prompted me to remember two other important events in the lives of friends and colleagues that I wanted to be sure to celebrate.

 

Immediately, I walked back inside and went straight to my Think Time to write these three events on my “to be” Concept Cloud. As I take time to Think Time, valuing not only results but also relationships is included in my planning process.  I now have confidence that these important events will be remembered and celebrated even during a season in which life is very full.

Achieving Results

My third Think Time takeaway from today is that I think differently as I do…everything.  Specifically, today, instead of getting lost in the packing process and feeling overwhelmed, I worked toward the visions that I had intentionally created in my mind.  What end result was I seeking?  In the areas in which I was intentional, my whole being worked toward the pictures in my mind.

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This week’s Think Time Envision Box features a “wild success” sketch of boxes stacked halfway to the ceiling in a room that does not have furniture.  I have worked the past two days toward that vision.  I have been selling furniture on my Facebook groups, loading items to be donated, and packing boxes with a consistent energy and focus that cannot be broken.  I have rescheduled appointments, resisted urges to reminisce, and simplified my schedule to achieve this vision.  For some people, this may not be revolutionary.  For those of us who struggle to focus and to produce results, it’s amazing!

Success in the (not so) Small Stuff

Well, I didn’t say, “I was a loser.  Now I am a winner.  You can be too.”  But, I did say that in one day, I was able to maintain balance, stay connected, and achieve results during a super full season.

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I call that success.

These are the long term wins that get us further than money could any day.  At Think Time, we focus on bringing our long-term goals into our daily lives.  When we look back on our lives, we don’t want to see that we missed what was important because we were “too busy.”  We don’t want to neglect important relationships.  We also don’t want to look back wondering what, if anything, of value we accomplished.

It is our hope at Think Time that when we get to the end of our lives, we can all say, “I lived my life to the full.  I lived on purpose.  I loved those around me.  I did important things that only I could do.”

These are my thoughts.  What are yours?

 

 

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When Life Throws You a Curveball…Hit a Homerun!

We are in the age of planners.  Planners are great when you know where you are going, you are where you want to be, and you understand what needs to be done.

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But, what do you need when life throws you a curveball?

Do you need to better organize your overflowing list of to dos?  To put everything in little boxes on your planner so that you can see them better?

No!

You need to clarify what’s most important to you and get rid of the rest!

You need to make space in your life for where you’re going and what matters most to you…now.

You need to evaluate where you put your limited energy and time.

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When life throws you a curveball, don’t throw in the towel.

These are the times that drive your focus toward what matters most and toward where you can have the most impact.  Embrace these days and get ready for positive change!

How do we go about doing these things? 

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First, identify what you really want.  No one really lets go of anything until they have a clear view of where they’re headed. No one lets go in a vacuum.  Clarify your vision.  And, when you clarify your vision, dream big!  Ask yourself what “wild success” looks like.  As the cheesy cliche [that I love] says, “Shoot for the moon.  Even if you miss it, you will land among the stars!”  Dream big and don’t edit yourself.  Purpose and productivity guru, Michael Hyatt, says, “Build your dreams to be bigger than the obstacles.”  The obstacles will certainly be there, but your dreams can definitely be bigger than them with some thoughtful preparation.

Second, let go of what is obsolete, irrelevant, or good but not the best.  So often, the best is is squeezed out by things that used to be important to us, by things that are trivial or by things that are good but not the best.  Don’t let that happen to you.  Take time to evaluate what matters most to you and actively create space in your life for these few things.

Third, clarify what is within your control and what is not within your control.  When life throws us curveballs, it is easy to spend a lot of energy spinning our wheels on the “what ifs” and “if onlys.”  We can get caught up in unproductive thinking about what other people could or should do.  Instead, let’s focus on what is within our power to change.  My thoughts, feelings, attitudes, behaviors, and choices are in my circle of influence while an endless other things are outside.  Tell yourself, “This is my new reality.  Now, what true impact can I make with the steps that I take?”

When it is time to grow, the best thing to do is clarify your vision and let go of things that are obsolete, irrelevant, or good but no longer the best.  Focusing on what you can control will give you the most result for every action you take.  Use these three steps to identify what matters most to you and to clear space in your calendar and in your life to focus on what matters most.

But, wait.  There is one more thing.

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Fourth, expect change.  Life is fluid.  It is always changing.  The clouds are always moving.  The earth is always rotating.  The universe is ever expanding.  Nothing stays the same.   So, be poised as you move forward to continuously reevaluate your vision, your priorities, and what is within and not within your control.

Then, the next time life throws you a curveball, you’ll be ready for it.  Hit a homerun!

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The best blogs are dialogues.  Please comment below.  Are you in a season of personal change?  Do you have a personal vision for what could be next?

Christine M. Wilson, LPC

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Co-founder, Think Time

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Choosing Purpose over Perfection

I write from a peaceful, quiet hotel room 15 stories above the Fort Worth skyline.  Keith and I are on a little getaway weekend.  It is part birthday celebration, part babymoon, and part taking time to think time and discuss our lives together on a deep level without interruption.  (Thanks, Mom!)

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I just hung out with the “personal” Think Zone concept cloud for a while.

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As I brainstormed, I was struck with how much I need to grow this year!

What was I thinking starting Think Time when I was so imperfect!?!  I easily could have taken a year to focus on learning in each major area of growth to refine myself before launching.  Maybe in five—or twenty—years, I would be ready!

But.

I didn’t.

And.

I didn’t.

On purpose.

In this move of choosing to launch Think Time, I chose purpose over perfection.

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I asked myself, “What can only I do in this world?

 

Then, I brainstormed.  I acted.  I gained feedback.  I acted again.  I refined.  I acted again.  I kept learning and growing.  I acted again.

 

Out of this milieu was born a collaboration of my personal and professional experience, my personal and professional research, and my unique personality design as an innovator.  It seemed at the time that only I could launch Think Time.  I mean, who else was going to bring together such a diverse compilation of creative thinking exercises, a passion that each life has an irreplaceable purpose, and the refinement that productivity practices bring?  It was a sort of odd and strange combination, but it seemed essential to me.  Any of these pieces without the others left something major wanting.

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I did not have a background in marketing.  It turns out that would have been helpful.

I did not have a lot of time.  It turns out that would have been helpful.

I did not have a lot of money.  It turns out that would have been helpful.

I did not have a sales personality.  It turns out that would have been helpful.

I did not have…well, quite a lot…

But, I did offer what I had, and I did launch.

And, I do not regret it.

I am so thankful that today, only one year after an initial launch, sales teams who want to excel even during trying times, CEOs who want to envision the next decades of their company, newly released prisoners who want to move forward toward their goals and not backward to repeat the past, parents who want to make the most of the time with their kids while they are still young, high schoolers and college students who want to pursue their goals amidst a plethora of pressures, young entrepreneurs who want to build their businesses while maintaining life balance, managers who want to better envision the future and lead their teams, and my family and I are able to dream big for the coming year—with the hope of actually bringing our dreams to reality.

Each of us is able to better envision the future.  Each of us is confronted with the choices that we must make if we are to live with a focus on what is important.  Each of us has the tool to empower us to “do” our dream in the most effective way possible, and each of us can constantly grow through reflection and daily gratitude.

I will admit, it is a more humbling way to go.

…to launch a dream before it is perfect.

However, if I can just get over myself and my “need” to be perfect, I can grow and people can be truly served.  In this way, I can live in such a way that I can be most in touch with reality.  Real life gives feedback—both positive and negative—in a way that preparation and thinking without action never can.

When I take time to Think Time, I am actively taking my ideals and constantly rubbing them against the sandpaper of reality.  Here, they are tested.  Here, they are refined.  Here, and only here, will they become truly beautiful.

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What are your dreams today?  Is your fear of imperfection holding you back, or are you ready to dive into the refining fire of life’s real time feedback.

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Do you choose purpose over perfection?

 

I can’t wait to hear from you in the comments below!  What are your thoughts?

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Christine Wilson, LPC

Co-founder of Think Time

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All You Need is Love

 

If you were to ask anyone what the world needs, you would likely start singing with the Beatles,All you need is love. Da da da da da… Love is all you need.”  And, you would be right!  Kindness, compassion, and love.  These have been identified globally throughout the centuries as the most game-changing characteristics that can belong to a human being.

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Another word that can be tossed in that top notch mix is empathy.  Empathy can be defined as “the capacity to understand or feel what another person is experiencing from within the other being’s frame of reference, i.e., the capacity to place oneself in another’s position.”   While an empathic response is not the equivalent of love, when we put ourselves in the shoes of another person, we are in an excellent position to move into kindness, compassion, and love.

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Here, then, is the million dollar question: How can one grow in empathy?   Is there anything that we can do practically on a regular basis to boost our chances of having an empathic response toward those around us?

Interpersonal Neurobiologist, Dan Siegel, suggests that “self-understanding is foundational to empathy.”  Dr. Siegel studies interpersonal relationships and the way we impact each others’ bodies and minds.  He has found that as we grow in self-understanding, we can actually avoid behaviors that harm human relationships and move toward actions of kindness and compassion.  In essence, when we are in touch with ourselves, we are better able to be in touch with others.

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So…

To grow in love, grow in empathy.

To grow in empathy, grow in self-understanding.

But, how can I grow in self-understanding?

 

We are glad you asked!

 

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When we take time to think time, we allow our inner selves to emerge onto paper and into our lives:

  • We evaluate our personal experiences when we reflect on our highs and lows individually or with others using our Timeline Tool.
  • We acknowledge our aspirations when we ask ourselves what “wild success” looks like using the Envision Box.
  • We identify and validate our desires when we ask, “What do I want more of?”  “What do I want less of?”
  • We face our failures and successes squarely when we take time to review, asking ourselves “What worked?” and “What didn’t?”

 

Thus, when we think time regularly, we are promoting our own self-understanding. 

 

And, as we grow in self-understanding, we grow in our capacity for empathy.

As we grow in empathy, we grow in our capacity for love.

And, all we really need is…love.

 

These are my thoughts…  What are yours?

Please share in the comments below!

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Christine M. Wilson, LPC

Co-Founder, Think Time

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On Envisioning…

On Envisioning…

Martin Luther King, Jr. declared, “I have a dream!”  Stephen Covey encouraged, “Begin with the end in mind.”  Mark Miller of Chick-fil-A identifies “Seeing Into the Future” as the first characteristic of a servant leader.

Envisioning what you want is critical to achieving any type of success.

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Clarity is simply a prerequisite for goal achievement. 

Unfortunately, most planning systems neglect this critical step. They are more responsive in nature, and as a result you end up living everyone else’s life instead of your own–simply because you lack clarity on where you ultimately want to be. 

In the “Dream” phase of Think Time, you have the opportunity to visualize what you want.  

“What if I don’t know what I want?”

We are glad you asked.

So often, when we are honest with ourselves, we don’t know what we want.  We at times need a guide to prompt us to unearth those desires that lie just beneath the surface.

Let Think Time be that guide.  Think Time walks you through a variety of thinking tools that empower you to unearth your vision in full-color, with clarity.   The tools are laid out in a creative, yet logical, format to help you see clearly what is most important to you.  You can think of these tools as a good friend asking just the right questions at the right time–leading to that “Ah-Ha” moment.

Would you like to try it?  

Take a moment right now to consider an area of your life.  You can choose anything you like–perhaps a relationship, a goal, or an important event.  Now think about it within a timeframe.  For instance, ask yourself, “Five years from now (or five weeks from now), what do I want to see in this area of my life?”  

Grab your favorite pens or pencils and start drawing.

Think big. 

Don’t edit yourself. You want your dreams to be bigger than your obstacles.  So spend some time here and clearly envision what you really want.

Sit with this for a while and see what other connections you make.  What details do you add?  

Congratulations!

You have just begun the dream phase of the Think Time process!

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What is your dream? 

 

These are my thoughts…  What are yours?

Please share in the comments below!

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Christine M. Wilson, LPC

Co-Founder, Think Time

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Think Time Life Leadership System

Use your whole brain to plan your whole life.

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How Do You Want to be Remembered?

How do you want to be remembered?

By your kids.

By your family members.

By your team members at work.

By the customers you serve.

By your neighbors.

By the stranger passing you on the street.

By the people of the next generation.

Think through the lenses of anyone you choose:  How do you want to be remembered by the people in your life? 

Instead of looking at your to-dos head on this morning, begin with the end you seek in mind.

Allow this simple question to shape your day today and see what a difference it makes in the small choices throughout the day.

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What shifted?

What suddenly looks important that didn’t seem so important five minutes ago?

What suddenly seems unimportant that seemed important five minutes ago?

By this simple exercise, you will be experiencing a small sampling of the shift in decision making that occurs when you take even just a moment to envision, to dream, and to begin with the end you seek in mind.

You really are what you think.

Christine Wilson

Licensed Professional Counselor, Co-founder of Think Time

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How do you want to be remembered?

How do you want to be remembered by the people in your life? 

Before diving into your to-dos, pause and ask yourself, “How do I want to be remembered?”

Think forward then reflect backward.

Decisions shift when you take a moment to envision.

Decisions shift when you take a moment to dream.

Decisions shift when you take a moment to begin with the end in mind.

You really are what you think.

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