How I Do Less to Achieve More

Thanks so much for your engagement with my blog last week. You have been telling me that you want to live a life of true success — not of shallow achievement and shiny objects–but one full of the good stuff–the real stuff. You want to get great results, have great relationships, and maintain a resilience that will sustain you for the long-haul. You want to live a truly great life.

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I have spent decades collecting understanding of the true meaning of personal and leadership success. As a Christian counselor with professional experience in neuropsychology, I have developed a whole-brain process that can help you use more of your brain to help you get this goodness into your life at the point of performance–when you create your plans for your everyday life: this is Think Time Planner.

As promised, today I am going to share with you how I do less to achieve more.

One of the classic characteristics of people with ADHD is impulsivity. In the area of goal achievement, this means that when you see something that needs to be done, you feel you MUST do it NOW!

As a result, many of your efforts are fragmented in a million directions, and you struggle to get results.

It feels like this: “I worked so hard all day long, and I still got nothing done!!”

If you are going to achieve your peak performance, this will never work. You simply cannot spend your important energy like that. You cannot afford to be exhausted and not get results.

Here’s how I do less to achieve more.

Following is a part of my process no one else is talking about:

I separate my ideas into two phases: Dreaming and Deciding.

First, in the Dream Phase, I dream big and get all of my ideas on paper in the Dream Phase of my Think Time Planner. Here, I have a place to immediately act on the idea that came into my head–without ruining my day with an impulsive 5 hour task that “has to be done now!” When an idea pops into my head, instead of DOING it NOW, I satisfy my impulsivity by WRITING it NOW…as an idea in the Dream Phase. I don’t have to do it now “so I don’t forget it.” I write it down.

Next in the Decide Phase, I evaluate which actions will get me the most results in the direction of my vision. I DECIDE what to do…

Here’s how:

Research tells me that about only 20% of my actions will give me about 80% of my results, so the LAST thing I want to do is write everything down and attempt to do it all. This would almost ensure that I suffer exhaustion with not much to show for all of my effort. I have a lot on my plate, and that’s just not going to work in my full life. I need to spend my energy carefully–so I get my best results.

So, now you know my secret to do less and achieve more.

First, separate your ideas from your actions.

Second, decide which ideas will give you the most bang for your buck before you commit to do them.

BUT IT’S NORMAL TO WORK FROM DAWN TIL DUSK. I AM AN ENTREPRENEUR!

Sure, it’s true. Many entrepreneurs wear busyness as a badge. But, chances are, these entrepreneurs are not getting their best results. Sure there are busy-seasons, but watch out or busy seasons follow other busy seasons and simply become a way of life. The truth is that being busy is the opposite of being intentional. It’s reactive instead of proactive. The better way is to pause and evaluate the best use of your energy–not to run yourself into the ground to get results.

Here’s the good news: It doesn’t have to be that way!

Here’s what Kelly had to say the year she launched her business:

“Think Time has been giving me tools to use my time better, without compromising my priorities of time with family. It has given me the space to visualize and dream. It has also helped me evaluate more and think about the areas the need pruning. I am cheering you on!!”

When was the last time you heard of an entrepreneur launching a business and feeling great about their time management and family priorities? Think Time is next to magic!

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Okay, as promised, next time, we will talk about relationships! We have hinted toward the importance of nurturing relationships along the way today but next week, we will deep dive into that topic. I am going to share a perspective you probably have not heard in your other entrepreneurial groups. You won’t believe how important this is!

If you have found today’s content valuable please share this blog in your ADHD and entrepreneur groups.

3 Ways to Give Attention to Your Dreams & Goals

How often do you take time to create clarity around your dreams and goals? 

Each week offers opportunities for being intentional, yet it can be easy to just dive into the next week and miss life-changing opportunities.

The Think Time Planners & Courses help you remember to create attention for your dreams and goals each week as you Dream, Decide, Do, & Review. 

Here are three ways you can give your dreams and goals the attention they deserve:

  1. Set aside uninterrupted think-time. Ask yourself what you really want. Every week in the Dream Phase of your think-time, allow yourself to dream big–as if there were no obstacles. This helps you to identify what you really want.
  2. Draw what you see. To boost your attention toward these dreams, draw an image of what you have in mind. It can be as simple as a dollar sign or a stick figure; however, don’t underestimate the power of this step for your visual ADHD mind. When you develop so much clarity around your goals that you can feel them, research shows that your subconscious mind gets to work to make your dreams a reality.
  3. Say yes to only a few things. To bring your dream to reality, you will need to take one more step and guard it! There are less important activities–and even some good ones–that threaten to steal your time and attention from your most important goals. Get clarity in the Decide Phase on what steps will help you make it happen in the best way possible. You can get more done by doing less. You just need to decide which steps these are.

Enjoy consistent progress toward your goals and develop a confidence in your abilities as you take time to give attention to your intentions each week. 

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Don’t let distractions steal what you want most.

Achieving your dreams and goals starts with giving them the attention they deserve.

In my signature course Cut Through the Noise, I walk you step by step how to ensure that you can give your best attention to your intentions so you can bring your dreams to reality.

There has never been a better time to invest in yourself.  How you achieve your dreams and goals impacts EVERYTHING YOU DO.  It is the gift that keeps on giving…and could even change your family tree.

Don’t let the distractions of life get in the way of your dreams and goals.

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How to Find Time

Time is the great equalizer.  Everyone has the same 24 hours in a day and 168 hours in a week.  While of course many factors influence success, one thing you can always control is how you spend your time. If you can find more time, you can influence the money you make, the relationships you have, and even your ability to fully live your purpose.

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How can you find more time? Here are three practical steps you can take today:

  1.  Know where you are going and why. In my opinion, the number one mistake people make in not finding time is not clearly defining what they want. Clarity helps you to recognize opportunities and creatively find solutions around your obstacles. By defining your “yes” you also define what is “not yes”–those little distractions that steal your best energy so you are left without energy for what matters most.
  2. Say “yes” to a very few things.  No one likes to say “no.”  However, if you casually say “yes” to too many things than you may unintentionally be saying “no” to the best things. Don’t fall into the trap of wondering where your time went while your most important dreams and goals remain on hold.
  3. Give every minute a name. Just like you would create a budget for our time, be sure you have a plan for how you want to spend your time. You could call it your “time budget.”  Use the Routine Worksheet in your Think Time Planner to create your Dream Routine that will help you achieve your ideas and goals.
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What are some ways you have found to find time?

This month, we are talking about how you can find time, energy, and focus for what matters most.Next time, we will talk about how to protect your energy.  Don’t miss it!

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Christine M. Wilson, LPC Co-Founder, Think Time  

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How Do You Want to Be Remembered?

How do you want to be remembered?

By your kids.

By your family members.

By your team members at work.

By the customers you serve.

By your neighbors.

By the stranger passing you on the street.

By the people of the next generation.

Think through the lenses of anyone you choose:  How do you want to be remembered by the people in your life? 

Instead of looking at your to-dos head on this morning, align yourself with your values by beginning your day with this simple question.

Allow it to shape your day today and see what a difference it makes in the small choices throughout the day.

How do you want to be remembered by the people in your life?

Christine Wilson, LPC

Reflect…

What shifted?

What suddenly looks important that didn’t seem so important five minutes ago?

What suddenly seems unimportant that seemed important five minutes ago?

By this simple exercise, you can shift your entire day.

Don’t let your days be highjacked by things that seem important but really aren’t. Make the most of your life and your time by aligning your activities with what matters most. Simply taking 2 minutes to ask yourself the right question can shift your decision making and change your life.

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Remember, don’t start with the plan. Start with the dream. Then, you will live a life aligned with your deepest values.

Join the movement of people like you saying “no” to mindless busyness and “yes” to purposeful productivity, buy your Think Time Planner today.

Christine Wilson, LPC

Co-founder of Think Time

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Better to Start Small Than Not At All

It is better to start small than to not start at all.

These are super important days. Have you considered that you may have an important role to play in them?

Often, when you think of making a difference in the world, you may feel like you need to do something really big.

Then, you see the obstacles.

And because you can’t do something big…

You.

Don’t.

Do.

Anything.

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As a mother of five with a global sized vision and a million ideas, I feel this tension a lot. However, even though I have a lot going on, I still make time to try to make a difference. 

And you can too.

Here are three things you can do to turn this tension you feel into a purposeful action that can change the world.

Know your values

To get clarity, start with your values.  Know what things matter most to you and orient everything else around these things.

Set some uninterrupted think-time aside with your Mission Statement and Core Values Worksheets or Discover Your Purpose in 5 Minutes Course to get clear on the things that matter to you. Who are you? Why are you here? What difference are you here to make in the world.

Always start with your ultimate destination first.

This gives you MORE TIME for what you VALUE MOST.

“One person really can make a difference–in fact, it is the only thing that ever has”

Feel the tension

When you look at your values, you may immediately hear yourself saying, “I am only one person.” Or, “I don’t have time.” Or, “I can’t…” Or, “Maybe later, when ___ is different.”

If this is the case, acknowledge that you do have limited time and resources; but also affirm that you still want to make a difference of some sort. (And, you don’t know how many days you will be given.) 

Now, this is where it gets fun.

You are holding two seemingly opposing desires in your mind at once.  This is a keystone skill in creative thinking that helps you get clear on what you really want. (Sharpen your creative thinking skills here.)

When you get super clear on what you want–even if it involves solving a problem…research shows your subconscious mind gets to work to find a solution for you–even when you are not consciously trying!

After you have clarified what you want–even if you don’t have an answer of how you will do it–keep a voice app or a small notebook with you to record the ideas that come into your mind.

Take action

Now, do something. Pick something from the selection of ideas that you have.

It’s okay if you need to start small.

It’s better to start small than to not start at all.

Even starting with 5 minutes can make a difference in the world.

You are

Who you are

Where you are

&

When you are

For an irreplaceable purpose.

If you don’t do this, who will?

Don’t let the limiting thoughts of “I don’t have time or I am only one person; I can’t make a difference.” or “I don’t have time” or “I can’t…” stop you.

You.

Can.

Do.

Something.

Give it some think-time and get clarity now!

Sincerely,

Christine

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It’s a New Year!

Happy 2019!

It’s a new year!

The slate is blank.

Last year is officially over.

This year has officially begun.

Do you feel the freedom to dream big?

Do you feel the freedom to do things differently?

Do you know how to get better results and have more time?

Do you know how to become who you want to be while still getting stuff done?

Do you have the Life-Coaching Planner that captures your dreams and moves you toward your goals?

If not, get on that!

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Just. Do. Something!!

So often, when we think of making a difference in the world, we feel like we need to do something really big.  Then, because we can’t do something big…

We.

Don’t.

Do.

Anything.

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Right before I have had my last two babies, I have been really struck with global issues of poverty and environmental care.  :/

As you parents and grandparents well know, right before you have a baby is not the best time to start a global campaign to change the world. 🙂

Think Time encourages you to be mindful of what you really want.  The first phase—the Dream Phase–guides you to think about things as if there were no obstacles.  Then, the Decide Phase helps you sift and sort the ideas to fit your real life.

So, I gave it some think-time.

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I accepted that I wanted to make a difference in the world and also acknowledged my real season of life.

Then, ideas came to me of how I could do something aligned with my values–even if smaller.

I didn’t ask myself if I could make a difference or not. That would be either/or thinking—which is “bad” thinking in the world of Think Time.  Instead, I asked myself the Think Time purpose question: “What can only I do?“

Here are three solutions that came to mind when I asked this question of myself in seasons that would not fit the “go big or go home” mentality.

#1 Poverty. 

Before having my fourth child, I was personally struck with the needs of the poor. When I applied a little think-time and asked what only I could do, I realized… 

  • I live in one of the most privileged cities in our hemisphere. 
  • I also realized I have a friend who works with underprivileged expectant women in the poorest country in our hemisphere—Haiti.
  • The third thing that came to mind is our shared passion of supporting the bond between moms and babies.  

What came of this?  My first annual “Haiti Baby Carrier Drive!”  Now, I had never done anything like this.  However, when I thought about it, all I had to do was make a website page, drop off some boxes in strategic locations, and tell people about it. Then, all I needed to do is collect the baby carriers and ship them to my friend.  

She was already doing the educational work with the young moms.  Voila!  A Think Time Solution!  

Guess what happened!  I didn’t save the world.  (That is Someone else’s job.) However, my friend later told me that there were four preemies born at just the time the carriers arrived.  The midwives believed that these carriers given by generous moms in Dallas may have helped save their lives.  I am so glad I gave some think-time to what was on my heart and didn’t think that because I had a full plate, I couldn’t do anything.

#2 The Environment.

As I write this blog, I have eight weeks until baby number five is due. This time, however, I am struck with the enormity of global environmental issues. (Rumor has it that frogs may be getting hurt due to chemicals we are putting into the ground.  My kids and I don’t like that.)

Well, I cannot do everything.  However, maybe I can do one thing.  So I asked myself, “What can only I do?” 

And is there anything small I can do?  

Here’s what came to mind.  I have a couple friends who sell chemical free products. One sells cleaning cloths that allow you to clean your house without chemicals. Another sells chemical free make up.  So, I thought, “Why don’t I host a party?”  I love parties. They will do all the work.  I will have all the fun. A small difference could be made.  Voilà. A think-time solution.

#3 Think Time.

The fact that you were reading this blog right now is a result of this same process. 

Throughout my life, I’ve been passionate about helping people to move beyond perceived obstacles toward their dreams and their unique purpose. 

So, I looked at what I had. I am a Licensed Professional Counselor. I have had experience working with people as a therapist with brain injured patients. I have over a decade of leadership training. I have graduate level training in creative thinking.

But.  I also have young children.

So, I did not create a coaching business that would take me all over the world during this season.

I recognized my desire to be very present with my husband and kids during this unique season of having young children.  

But.

I still wanted to help people.

So, I created a product that would help people in the same way I would help them if I was sitting across the room from them or teaching from a platform.

Voila!  A Think Time solution!


What is it that you really want to do but tend to think you cannot accomplish because of your season of life?

Is there a reduced vision of this dream that you can move toward?

Is there something that only you can do in this field that no one else can? 

Give it some think-time and see what surfaces! 

Get clarity on what you really want.  Reduce it to fit your season of life.

You may be surprised at the difference one person really can make–even when life is busy, distracting, and demanding!

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How Can I Make This Even Better?

One of my favorite questions in our Think Time Life-Coaching process is, “How can I make this even better?”

In the Dream Phase of Think Time, after you move through several creative thinking tools, you ask yourself this question.


It is the question Walt Disney asked of his Imagineers over and over again when they presented their work to him.

When you watch a Disney cartoon, there are so many little details.

So many things make each clip engaging and funny and intelligent and creative.

This is because Walt Disney asked this simple question.


I maybe stating the obvious, but it is my conviction that your life deserves as much creative attention as a cartoon. 

You can apply this simple question to a C-Suite meeting or to your child’s birthday party.  It just makes everything better.

So as you make your plans this week in your Think Time Life Coaching Planner, ask yourself, “How can I make this even better?”   

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Clarity Takes Hard Work.

I recently spent three hours with a friend who is gifted in organization.  She helped me to sift and sort through four ages of kids clothes, creating donation bags, and organizing the “keepers” in accessible bins.

As I look into my kids’ closet after all that work, the takeaway I had was, “Clarity takes hard work.”

After three full hours of two of us working nonstop, there is clarity in my kids’ closets and drawers.  It is clear which clothes are for each child. It is clear what I have and what I need to purchase for the next season. It is clear where my children need to return their clothes when they are clean.

This clarity feels good. 


 

I will admit, however, I am exhausted after sifting and sorting 1 million little pieces of fabric.  It hurts my brain!

However, I wouldn’t go back and do anything differently. That job needed to be done. And we will all benefit from the hard work applied to that task.  

This clarity is peaceful.  

This clarity is productive.

This clarity is worth the hard work.


This process reminds me of the hard mental & emotional work we put into the Think Time process.  It takes work to cast a clear vision, to decide what stays and what needs to go, and how to place activities into the correct containers (or boxes on our calendars).  

In the middle of the process, it feels a bit messy, and tough calls have to be made.  “Yeses” need to be identified.  “Nos” need to be bravely stated. 

Perseverance will ensure the job is well done.

The process takes hard work. 


But, when it is all over…

This clarity is peaceful.

This clarity is productive.

This clarity is worth it!  

As you take time to think-time this week, ask yourself if you are putting in the work to really get the clarity you need to move forward in peace and confidence.   

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Are You Comfortable Feeling Incompetent? You Should Be.

On a 2017 episode of The EntreLeadership Podcast, Ken Coleman interviewed author and entrepreneur Seth Godin.  Ken introduced him as one of the most brilliant thinkers of our time.

Seth then completed the interview, and he did not disappoint.

He says that if we are to change (hear: grow!) we must be comfortable with feeling incompetent.

Seth continued.

Often people do not change because they don’t want to be uncomfortable and feel incompetent.

He says this feeling of incompetence, however, is often a prerequisite to growth and change. 

People who resist these negative feelings are less likely to grow…less likely to change.

How can we apply this understanding? 

Well, if you are a leader in an organization–which many of you are–one take-away, Seth suggests, is to not be surprised when your people do not immediately embrace the change you want to bring into your company.

You likely hired these people for their competence, so don’t be surprised when they resist the feelings of incompetence that come with new initiatives.  Be patient with them.

Also, as you go forward, hire people who are not only competent, but also curious and humble…in other words, they are willing to go through the negative feelings of incompetence because they value change and growth more than always feeling competent.

It may take a little longer in the interviewing process, but it will be worth it in the long run.

How can I apply this in my personal life?

Be aware of this dynamic any time you are presented with something new (for instance, a planning process like Think Time that is a little different than everyone else…moving beyond mere lines and words and including new techniques like visualization, drawing, and mind-mapping).

Embrace the fact that you may be naturally inclined to resist things that are good for you because you don’t want to feel incompetent.

Have a conscious dialogue with yourself before you say “no” to a great opportunity.

Are you resisting because you are uncomfortable with feelings of incompetence?

Can you reframe the feelings of incompetence to mean that you are making progress toward change and growth?

Can you use this new understanding to set yourself on a new learning trajectory this coming year?

Be encouraged.  Because and not many people are willing to move through the uncomfortable feelings of incompetence, you can quickly set yourself apart from your competition by embracing it as a prerequisite for growth and change.  Embrace this mindset tip, and you are already a step ahead.

What are your thoughts?

What is one thing you have learned that has changed your life? 

Was it uncomfortable at first to learn it?

Are you glad you learned it in spite of your initial resistant feelings?

Please tell us about it in the comments below.

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