It’s a New Year!

Happy 2019!

It’s a new year!

The slate is blank.

Last year is officially over.

This year has officially begun.

Do you feel the freedom to dream big?

Do you feel the freedom to do things differently?

Do you know how to get better results and have more time?

Do you know how to become who you want to be while still getting stuff done?

Do you have the Life-Coaching Planner that captures your dreams and moves you toward your goals?

If not, get on that!

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Just. Do. Something!!

So often, when we think of making a difference in the world, we feel like we need to do something really big.  Then, because we can’t do something big…

We.

Don’t.

Do.

Anything.

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Right before I have had my last two babies, I have been really struck with global issues of poverty and environmental care.  :/

As you parents and grandparents well know, right before you have a baby is not the best time to start a global campaign to change the world. 🙂

Think Time encourages you to be mindful of what you really want.  The first phase—the Dream Phase–guides you to think about things as if there were no obstacles.  Then, the Decide Phase helps you sift and sort the ideas to fit your real life.

So, I gave it some think-time.

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I accepted that I wanted to make a difference in the world and also acknowledged my real season of life.

Then, ideas came to me of how I could do something aligned with my values–even if smaller.

I didn’t ask myself if I could make a difference or not. That would be either/or thinking—which is “bad” thinking in the world of Think Time.  Instead, I asked myself the Think Time purpose question: “What can only I do?“

Here are three solutions that came to mind when I asked this question of myself in seasons that would not fit the “go big or go home” mentality.

#1 Poverty. 

Before having my fourth child, I was personally struck with the needs of the poor. When I applied a little think-time and asked what only I could do, I realized… 

  • I live in one of the most privileged cities in our hemisphere. 
  • I also realized I have a friend who works with underprivileged expectant women in the poorest country in our hemisphere—Haiti.
  • The third thing that came to mind is our shared passion of supporting the bond between moms and babies.  

What came of this?  My first annual “Haiti Baby Carrier Drive!”  Now, I had never done anything like this.  However, when I thought about it, all I had to do was make a website page, drop off some boxes in strategic locations, and tell people about it. Then, all I needed to do is collect the baby carriers and ship them to my friend.  

She was already doing the educational work with the young moms.  Voila!  A Think Time Solution!  

Guess what happened!  I didn’t save the world.  (That is Someone else’s job.) However, my friend later told me that there were four preemies born at just the time the carriers arrived.  The midwives believed that these carriers given by generous moms in Dallas may have helped save their lives.  I am so glad I gave some think-time to what was on my heart and didn’t think that because I had a full plate, I couldn’t do anything.

#2 The Environment.

As I write this blog, I have eight weeks until baby number five is due. This time, however, I am struck with the enormity of global environmental issues. (Rumor has it that frogs may be getting hurt due to chemicals we are putting into the ground.  My kids and I don’t like that.)

Well, I cannot do everything.  However, maybe I can do one thing.  So I asked myself, “What can only I do?” 

And is there anything small I can do?  

Here’s what came to mind.  I have a couple friends who sell chemical free products. One sells cleaning cloths that allow you to clean your house without chemicals. Another sells chemical free make up.  So, I thought, “Why don’t I host a party?”  I love parties. They will do all the work.  I will have all the fun. A small difference could be made.  Voilà. A think-time solution.

#3 Think Time.

The fact that you were reading this blog right now is a result of this same process. 

Throughout my life, I’ve been passionate about helping people to move beyond perceived obstacles toward their dreams and their unique purpose. 

So, I looked at what I had. I am a Licensed Professional Counselor. I have had experience working with people as a therapist with brain injured patients. I have over a decade of leadership training. I have graduate level training in creative thinking.

But.  I also have young children.

So, I did not create a coaching business that would take me all over the world during this season.

I recognized my desire to be very present with my husband and kids during this unique season of having young children.  

But.

I still wanted to help people.

So, I created a product that would help people in the same way I would help them if I was sitting across the room from them or teaching from a platform.

Voila!  A Think Time solution!


What is it that you really want to do but tend to think you cannot accomplish because of your season of life?

Is there a reduced vision of this dream that you can move toward?

Is there something that only you can do in this field that no one else can? 

Give it some think-time and see what surfaces! 

Get clarity on what you really want.  Reduce it to fit your season of life.

You may be surprised at the difference one person really can make–even when life is busy, distracting, and demanding!

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How Can I Make This Even Better?

One of my favorite questions in our Think Time Life-Coaching process is, “How can I make this even better?”

In the Dream Phase of Think Time, after you move through several creative thinking tools, you ask yourself this question.


It is the question Walt Disney asked of his Imagineers over and over again when they presented their work to him.

When you watch a Disney cartoon, there are so many little details.

So many things make each clip engaging and funny and intelligent and creative.

This is because Walt Disney asked this simple question.


I maybe stating the obvious, but it is my conviction that your life deserves as much creative attention as a cartoon. 

You can apply this simple question to a C-Suite meeting or to your child’s birthday party.  It just makes everything better.

So as you make your plans this week in your Think Time Life Coaching Planner, ask yourself, “How can I make this even better?”   

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Clarity Takes Hard Work.

I recently spent three hours with a friend who is gifted in organization.  She helped me to sift and sort through four ages of kids clothes, creating donation bags, and organizing the “keepers” in accessible bins.

As I look into my kids’ closet after all that work, the takeaway I had was, “Clarity takes hard work.”

After three full hours of two of us working nonstop, there is clarity in my kids’ closets and drawers.  It is clear which clothes are for each child. It is clear what I have and what I need to purchase for the next season. It is clear where my children need to return their clothes when they are clean.

This clarity feels good. 


 

I will admit, however, I am exhausted after sifting and sorting 1 million little pieces of fabric.  It hurts my brain!

However, I wouldn’t go back and do anything differently. That job needed to be done. And we will all benefit from the hard work applied to that task.  

This clarity is peaceful.  

This clarity is productive.

This clarity is worth the hard work.


This process reminds me of the hard mental & emotional work we put into the Think Time process.  It takes work to cast a clear vision, to decide what stays and what needs to go, and how to place activities into the correct containers (or boxes on our calendars).  

In the middle of the process, it feels a bit messy, and tough calls have to be made.  “Yeses” need to be identified.  “Nos” need to be bravely stated. 

Perseverance will ensure the job is well done.

The process takes hard work. 


But, when it is all over…

This clarity is peaceful.

This clarity is productive.

This clarity is worth it!  

As you take time to think-time this week, ask yourself if you are putting in the work to really get the clarity you need to move forward in peace and confidence.   

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Are You Comfortable Feeling Incompetent? You Should Be.

On a 2017 episode of The EntreLeadership Podcast, Ken Coleman interviewed author and entrepreneur Seth Godin.  Ken introduced him as one of the most brilliant thinkers of our time.

Seth then completed the interview, and he did not disappoint.

He says that if we are to change (hear: grow!) we must be comfortable with feeling incompetent.

Seth continued.

Often people do not change because they don’t want to be uncomfortable and feel incompetent.

He says this feeling of incompetence, however, is often a prerequisite to growth and change. 

People who resist these negative feelings are less likely to grow…less likely to change.

How can we apply this understanding? 

Well, if you are a leader in an organization–which many of you are–one take-away, Seth suggests, is to not be surprised when your people do not immediately embrace the change you want to bring into your company.

You likely hired these people for their competence, so don’t be surprised when they resist the feelings of incompetence that come with new initiatives.  Be patient with them.

Also, as you go forward, hire people who are not only competent, but also curious and humble…in other words, they are willing to go through the negative feelings of incompetence because they value change and growth more than always feeling competent.

It may take a little longer in the interviewing process, but it will be worth it in the long run.

How can I apply this in my personal life?

Be aware of this dynamic any time you are presented with something new (for instance, a planning process like Think Time that is a little different than everyone else…moving beyond mere lines and words and including new techniques like visualization, drawing, and mind-mapping).

Embrace the fact that you may be naturally inclined to resist things that are good for you because you don’t want to feel incompetent.

Have a conscious dialogue with yourself before you say “no” to a great opportunity.

Are you resisting because you are uncomfortable with feelings of incompetence?

Can you reframe the feelings of incompetence to mean that you are making progress toward change and growth?

Can you use this new understanding to set yourself on a new learning trajectory this coming year?

Be encouraged.  Because and not many people are willing to move through the uncomfortable feelings of incompetence, you can quickly set yourself apart from your competition by embracing it as a prerequisite for growth and change.  Embrace this mindset tip, and you are already a step ahead.

What are your thoughts?

What is one thing you have learned that has changed your life? 

Was it uncomfortable at first to learn it?

Are you glad you learned it in spite of your initial resistant feelings?

Please tell us about it in the comments below.

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Imagine a Place…

Imagine with me for a moment.

Imagine a place of purpose and productivity.

Imagine a group of people in the habit of being creative.

Imagine a team that works toward a common goal with a common language.

Imagine a department that has a clear vision of success in the mind of every member.

Imagine a company where every person completes the most important task first.

Imagine an organization with a language that fosters clear communication.

Imagine a group of people who are in the habit of being thankful.

Imagine a team that had an understanding of which activities were the most important.

Imagine a team that actively purged time-wasters from the schedule.

Imagine a meeting in which every member was prepared, rested, healthy, and present.

Imagine a culture that values both relationships and results.

Imagine the results of an organization that often asked, “How can we make this even better?”

Now, imagine if the tools and the training for such a place were at your fingertips.

Here they are.

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5 Steps to Becoming An Effective Delegator

By Guest Writer: Bryan Miles, CEO and Co-founder of BELAY

Delegation may not always come naturally to you, and for some of us, we are constantly trying to perfect this area of leadership. It’s worth striving for perfection because when you have motivated people who trust you, you’ll see your business propelled forward. Simon Sinek says this of delegation: “You have to earn trust by communicating and demonstrating that you share the same values and beliefs. You have to talk about your WHY and prove it with WHAT you do. Again, a WHY is just a belief, HOWs are the actions we take to realize that belief, and WHATs are the results of those actions. When all three are in balance, trust is built and value is perceived.”

Here are a few key points that I have realized over the years to help me perfect my “Art of Delegation”. Take what works for you and make it your own in your journey to building trust with your team.

Start With the End in Mind

1)  Delegation to me is “beginning with the end in mind.”  Meaning … asking those on my team to execute tasks that serve an ultimate purpose and either solve a problem or move our business forward.  Assigning these tasks help me free up space/time in my day so that I can take care of the “one-offs” and critical daily tasks that I, as a Leader, need to attend to.

2)  When you delegate, delegate a result not a task.  What is the end result that you are looking for?  Give your teammate and/or employee the opportunity to work toward a goal and then celebrate the result with them.  Not only will you give them something to celebrate but you have also given them a sense of ownership and responsibility for their projects/efforts.

3)  Don’t delegate things you love doing.  In most cases, the things you HATE to do take more time to do and distract you from the goals you are working toward.  Delegate those tasks to team members who are more qualified and or patient and willing to execute those items so you won’t be bogged down by doing them.

4)  Express to your team the WHY behind the WHAT so they can feel passionate about the projects they are executing. Understand that people will strive and toil … and the WHY can fuel them.

5)  Be mindful of the tasks you ask others to execute (from a timing and knowledge-base perspective) and express gratitude to them when tasks are complete.  This creates a greater relationship with you and your employees and makes you someone they will want to follow.

You don’t have to jump in with all these ideas at once. Try a few out and see what happens when you focus on the why behind your tasks and the ultimate result you want with each delegation assignment.

The art of delegation isn’t just about you as a leader though and how you divvy out assignments. Delegating is about knowing your team and the powerful part they play in the process. When employees know your motivation and recognize your trust, they feel more connected to the mission of your business. When there is trust, you will then see a healthier bottom line, which translates directly into everyone’s success.

In our next blog, we delve into understanding the role your employees play in delegation.

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What’s The Big Idea? On Thinking About Our Thinking.

It’s been a great week for me.  I have been doing some mini trainings here in Dallas as well as virtually with some online groups online.  It has been refreshing for me to think “big picture” about our message and distill it into simplicity for those who have never heard about Think Time.

What are some of our big picture thoughts?  Let’s start with a quote from Uncle Al!

“We cannot solve our problems with the same THINKING we used when we created them.”  — Albert Einstein

Take a moment and write or draw some of the successes you are experiencing and some of the problems you are facing in your life.

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Some things are going well, and other things are not.  In the areas in which we are struggling or stuck, we need to develop new ways to think about things.  Then, we can get unstuck.

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Psychologist Henry Cloud notes that 90% of the thoughts we have today are the same thoughts we had yesterday.

While this has worked well for us in many areas in life, there are areas in life in which our old habits are no longer serving us.  Instead, they are actually hindering us.  When we rise above our thoughts and think about our thinking, new neural pathways begin to form and we can begin to get unstuck.

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This is the heart of what we are doing at Think Time.  We are practicing healthy thinking over and over again…sort of “trying on” the thinking patterns of top performers and wise people.  The more we practice these thinking patterns, over and over again, the stronger these new neural pathways will grow, and we can begin to get unstuck.

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Co-Founder, Think Time

 

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What Would Your 80 Year Old Self Say?

By Guest Writer, Dr. Emily Shupert

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What are your 2-3 biggest concerns right now?

What keeps you up at night? What issues and fears related to them keep you up at night or create a constant low hum in the back of your mind? Is it about your work? Your finances? Your relationships? Whatever they are, write them out. I’m sure you’d love to have the answers to solve these concerns, right? While I can’t give you an answer, I’m going to ask you a question that will help you gain greater perspective and greater efficiency as you tackle these areas of concern.

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What would your 80-year-old version say to you – right now, as you look at these concerns?

Yes, you read correctly. I know, it’s an odd question to ask but let’s just go with it for a minute because at the end of this exercise you’ll gain two characteristics: perspective and greater efficiency.

Perspective

If you knew that these issues, these super stressful and sometimes all-consuming concerns, would be taken care of and everything would be ok in the end, how would you see the issue in the current situation?

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I’m not asking you to let go and stop working.

Quite the opposite.

But I do want you to gain perspective because when we are completely surrounded by the problem, we forget to look up and see that this problem will ultimately resolve itself.

When it’s all we can see, we make decisions based on our current fears and miss the overall picture completely.  Stress makes us stupid.  No, you aren’t stupid, but your fears often cloud your judgement and cause you to either act out of your fears or not act at all in order to avoid them all together.  So even though you don’t know the answers to the problem, just keep reminding yourself that it will work out will give you more objectivity as you wrestle the issues and create top-notch solutions.

Perspective helps you relax, not be consumed by your fears or become stalled. You will be able to objectively approach the issue.

Greater Efficiency

How are these concerns capitalizing on your focus and precious time?

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I have a super successful business friend who does only “standing meetings” with his team.  It’s called standing because it’s only 20 minutes and not enough time for people to sit down, get comfortable, and spend too much time talking about what they actually need to go out and implement. They enter in the meeting with a problem and exit with a solution. People are prepared beforehand and make the most effective use of their time and others in the meeting. I’m sure it’s a bit of a sprint, but they don’t allow one issue or problem to stump them for an hour, a week or days.

This brilliant idea works because when we get stumped on the current issue, we not only miss out on other items on our list, but we can also have analysis paralysis; we spend time looking for the perfect solution that just might not exist.

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Take advantage of the maxim students depend on when taking their exams: if you get tripped up on a question, make an educated guess, and then move on.  If you can go back, do it, but don’t spend all your time on a tricky question when you have 49 more to go.  What you are facing right now might be critical; if it weren’t a problem, it wouldn’t have come to mind. But if you focus only on this issue, you’re missing out on the rest of your life. Commit a reasonable amount of time and energy to solve this issue but be sure it doesn’t prohibit you from making progress elsewhere.

I bet you’d be pretty relieved when you imagine the 80-year-old version of you, what you’ve done, and whom you’ve become.  But what made you a happy, satisfied, and healthy 80-year-old probably wasn’t finding the answer to this one issue, but because you worked hard, managed your time and resources well, poured into others, and did not allow problems to shape your entire life.

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Whenever you face an issue that feels daunting and unclear, ask yourself what the 80-year-old version would say about the situation, which will allow you to live with greater perspective, efficiency and without regrets.

So now it’s your turn.

Write out a response from that wise, happy, and successful 80-year-old version of you.

See, you’re closer to the answers than you imagined!

by Emily Shupert, Ph.D., LPC, DCC

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Simplify Life in Atlanta 
Counselor and Coach
Dr. Emily Shupert helps clients heal from the past, find clarity in the present, and embrace the future. With multiple advanced counseling degrees, Dr. Shupert runs Simplify Life Counseling + Coaching Services in Atlanta. She works primarily with tweens, teens, and young adults struggling with anxiety disorders. Dr. Shupert is passionate about sharing life-giving insights with individuals through counseling and speaking to corporations.

 

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On Battling “Busy”

What gets in between you and living a full, connected, meaningful life?

When Shauna Niequist, author of Present over Perfect, asked herself this question, she came up with one clear answer–being “busy.”

She shares, “A few years ago, I found myself exhausted and isolated, my soul and body sick. I was tired of being tired, burned out on busy. And, it seemed almost everyone I talked with was in the same boat: longing for connection, meaning, depth, but settling for busy…”

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“Busy” is one of the strongest enemies of living on purpose.

But, how do we fight “busy” and win–when everyone and everything around us seems to be moving toward this ever-pulsing beat?

There seems to be no other way…

Or is there?

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Here are a few ways to start your battle against busyness:

Develop a clear and compelling vision of what your purposeful life looks like.  This is the place to start–at the end.  Imagine yourself looking back on your life.  What does wild success look like?

Align your activities to this vision.  Brainstorm ways you can bring this vision to fruition.  Place these on your calendar first.  These activities will help you become who you want to be, so they need to take precedence over “other stuff.”

Say “no” to just about everything else.  This sounds hard, but with a clear and compelling vision of what matters most, it is not actually as hard as you think.  While it is often hard to say “no” without a clear vision,  once you have a clear vision of where you are going and why, the “nos” become obvious, nearly effortless, and often even joyous!

When you look back over your future life, what do you want to see?

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