“I want whatever the person who wakes up early in the morning and works out has.”
As a person with ADHD, have you ever felt this way?
You want to wake up early to write that novel, launch that course, or lose the weight, but somehow it just doesn’t happen.
Have you wanted to be disciplined but felt somehow it eluded you?
If so, today’s blog is for you.
In this short blog, I will quickly pull back the curtain and show you a secret to being “disciplined” I don’t hear anyone else talking about.
Let’s start by breaking down discipline for what it is.
Just by casual observation, if I were writing the definition, I would include something to the effect of delaying short-term gratification for your long term goal–on a regular basis. You pass on immediate rewards for long-term gain.
But, when you tend to be impulsive or procrastinate because you almost always choose short-term rewards over long-term gain, how can you possibly be disciplined?
Sssh, don’t tell anyone!
I believe there is a “back door” to discipline for the ADHD brain. That is, by using the strengths of your self-motivated, hyperfocusing, visual mind, I believe you can boost your discipline.
Here are the three steps I personally use to be more disciplined:
- Identify what matters most to you. The key to developing discipline for the ADHD mind is by first identifying what you really want. It takes a little time, but just like a good investment, it pays off! By becoming mindful of your deepest values and desires, you can use your double strengths of self-motivated action and hyperfocusing to achieve what you want. Use the More of-Less of tool and the Think Zones in your Think Time Planner to identify what matters most to you.
- Nurture your love toward it. Next, engage your emotions. Nurture your love toward your deepest values and desires by clearly envisioning them coming to fruition. Use the Five Sensing tool in your Think Time Planner to engage your five senses as you visualize. This is best way to prime your mind to focus on what matters most in a distracting world according to neuroscience so you can bring your dreams to life.
- Move your dreams into your routines. If your dreams and goals are not in your routine, chances are, they are not in your life. It is true. Once, you “get” this, everything will change. Instead of making lists and individual goals, make a strategic plan via a Dream Routine that includes your highest values. Cultivate your love for what matters most as you work from your Routine Worksheet and paint your plans with your Think Time Planner.
Let me be clear–I am still the same person. I still prefer immediate gratification; however, with this process I stay in the driver’s seat and CULTIVATE MY DREAMS & DESIRES so I actually WANT NOW what moves me toward my long term goals more than whatever shiny object is in front of me. Make sense?
Continuously renewing your motivation toward your dreams and goals engages the ADHD strengths of self-motivation and hyper-focusing and using a Dream Routines adds the “regularity” you need to be–or appear– disciplined.
What techniques do you use to be more disciplined so you can achieve your dreams and goals?
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