When you arrive at the end of your life and look back, what do you want to see?
Who do you want to have been?
What do you want to have done?
In essence, “What is success?”
This question was actually the opening line of my high school graduation speech. As I stood in front of those blazing lights, each word echoed through the stadium. I stepped out of that stadium to continue my quest of discovery.
I spent a couple decades on this quest– learning in college, attending a leadership internship in one state followed by a fellowship in another, working at a church then a non-profit, graduating with a masters from seminary and then serving patients recovering from brain injury as I gained my license as a professional counselor.
Lately, I have continued my quest nurturing and educating my kids for success in the next generation and serving you through Think Time. As it turns out, I have been thinking about this and gathering great stuff for quite a long time…24 years! I only wish I could find a copy of that speech!!! I would love to know what I came up with at 17!
THREE QUALITIES OF SUCCESS YOU CAN’T AFFORD TO MISS
Today, I want to talk about three aspects of success that my planners and courses at Think Time are designed to support–qualities you can’t afford to miss in your life!
I’ll be talking about these for the next few weeks. It is my belief that each of these qualities is necessary to live a full and meaningful life–to truly succeed.
You may have judged success in the past based on what you did. Let me turn that on its head, and ask instead, not “What did you do?” but “What were your results?” You know from experience that it is possible to work hard from dawn until dusk and accomplish next to nothing–exhausting yourself and never making headway on your important goals. Sure, you were busy. You “got a lot done.” But, did you get results? Getting results is what moves the needle toward your dreams and goals.
It is simply not enough to “get things done” while your relationships remain on the back burner. You are not a machine. You are a human BEing designed to DO important things. Having great results without great relationships OR great relationships without great results is never enough. You have to have both to succeed. I believe that being connected to God, to others, and to your purpose are central to success. Relationships fuel your life.
Resilience keeps you in the game for the long haul. Anyone can sprint and have the appearance of success while things quietly crumble under the surface. Time tells the whole story. When you have the quality of resilience, you have the energy and the mindset to bounce back when set backs happen. You continue to create great work over the long haul.
The truly successful person consistently achieves great results and maintains great relationships over the long haul — continuously maintaining energy and focus for what matters most.
Over the next few weeks, I will discuss one quality a week to deep dive into the importance of each of these qualities in a little more depth.
I DON’T HAVE THAT KIND OF TIME.
As you read, you may nod your head in agreement while deep down you don’t believe you could ever have time to achieve that degree of success–you don’t even have time to think! In your life, there are simply not enough hours in the day.
Wow, I get it. Life is moving so faster than ever, and the distractions are endless! It can feel overwhelming to think about reaching for the stars.
However, what if I suggested that that you don’t have enough time NOT to pursue true success in your life? Would you agree that by not taking time to ensure that you are getting great results, building great relationships, and investing in your resilience, you don’t risk just losing hours…you could lose entire decades of your life!
You don’t just risk losing hours…you could lose entire decades of your life.Christine Wilson, LPC
If you don’t have a vision and strategy for getting results, you could spend your golden years working a dead-end job–just to pay the bills.
If you don’t have a vision and a strategy for your relationships, your kids’ childhood may be over before you have learned how to be present with them.
If you don’t have a vision for your health, you could achieve all of the above success but lose out on decades of your life to enjoy your success.
Please hear me. This is important.
The truth is you don’t have time to not to take time to clarify your vision and create a strategy for these three areas of success.
And, remember, you don’t have to spend decades learning what you need to know to achieve this type of success. I have already done the work for you!
In my next Think Time Thursday e-mail, I will deep dive into getting results and share with you the approach I personally use to do less while achieving more. So, keep your eye out for that post. It will simply be called “how I do less to achieve more…”
In the mean time would you please take a moment to share your thoughts and comment on this blog?