More is Less

Last week, I reminded you of the truth that often: Less is more.

 

This week, I want to remind you that often… More is less.

Sometimes, we say “yes” too quickly.  There are so many wonderful opportunities!  When we say “yes” to too many of them, unfortunately, our most important YESes are unintentionally told NO.

Let’s quickly discuss a few.

Relationships.  Unfortunately, when we say “yes” to too much, it is often our dearest relationships that suffer the most.  As people, we are designed to live in quality connections with others.  When we are busy about many things, this is one of the first things to give.  We’ve all experienced this.

Health.  Sometimes we push ourselves so hard to keep up with our “yeses” that we neglect our nutrition, our rest, and our exercise.  We are designed to be dependent on these basic needs to deliver our best results.  Unfortunately, cheating our health is a temporary fix that our bodies will not allow us to do for long.  (Read one man’s story here.) When we neglect our health, we often sabotage our future success.  Oops.

Quality and excellence.  You’ve experienced this–from other people of course. ; ) You are working on a team project and someone who says “yes” to too many things is routinely the one who is dropping the ball or producing shoddy work.  It hurts the quality of the delivered result.  They feel like they are doing “everything they can” but you know there were a lot of choices before that point of crisis that led to the embarrassing results.  The last thing you want is to be “that person” in someone else’s life!  You know how it feels on the other side!

This is why it is worth a little think-time to get really clear on your “YESes.”  Only then will you know where to confidently apply your “NOs.”  Then, you will have more of what you want.  And less of what you don’t want.

And, you can confidently live your life focused on what matters most.

How have you seen More as Less in your life?  Please comment below.

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Less is More

As you move into your week this week, keep this #thinktimethought at the front of your mind.

Less is more.

Print out the picture and post it where you will see it often.  Apply it broadly and often and see how your week is changed.

So much of life is identifying the few things that deserve our whole-hearted “YES!”

If you want to go deeper and applying this practically, check out this blog on the 80/20 Rule or this blog on just saying “Yes!”

Leave this page open on your browser, and as you notice a difference in your life this week, tell us about it below!

 

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How to Get Started with Your Think Time Digital Downloads

Hey guys!

This year, we have released our Think Time Purpose Planners as Digital Downloads, and it is awesome to see what you all can do with them.  I am learning from you!

Here are the two main ways you can use your Think Time Digital Download PDFs.  First, you can print them and think-time on paper.  Second, you can download your PDF, and use it on your iPad or device.

  •  Print and Bind your Purpose Planner–any way you like!  When you print your Purpose Planner, you can be as simple or as custom as you would like to be.
    • You can simply print your PDF at home, hole-punch your sheets and place them in a binder.
    • You can also have your PDF printed at your local FedEx Kinkos, Office Depot, etc… with a coil binding.  (The layout is more precisely designed for a coil than a binder, but either way can work.)
    • Another option is to discuss your needs with a customer representative from an awesome paper store like Clampitt Paper here in Texas.  This is especially fun if you are printing for a group and want to customize “team” colors or paper selections.  I also recommend this option if you would like your PDFs to be printed on higher-end papers that may not be carried at more generic stores.  (My personal favorite.)
  • Download your Purpose Planner to your iPad or device.  Just as the sky is the limit on paper selections at Clampitt, the sky is also the limit on app selections when you use your iPad or your favorite device.  (My only caveat is that if you choose to use Think Time on your device, be sure that you put your device on Airplane Mode to get the most out of your think-time!!)
    • Here are two ways that Think Timers have used their downloads this year.
      • Think Time with One Note.
        • Stacy uses her Think Time Purpose Planner with the app One Note.
        • Here is what she had to say, “It’s a little bit more of a manual setup, but one note is organized into notebooks, sections, and pages. I have each quarter/month/week setup as their own page and arranged them so the are side by side like they would be in the printed book. I also made them a background image for the page, so I can draw or type on top of them. Having each one be it’s own page gives me some extra space around it for extra lists of things to do, or sketching out design ideas, etc.”
        • This is what it looks like:

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  • Think Time with Good Note.
    • Julie uses her Think Time Purpose Planner with the app Good Note.
    • Here is a video tutorial of how she uploads her Think Time Purpose Planner into Good Note with a few tips.

Thank you, Stacy and Julie for sharing your tech-savvy skills with us!  All, please comment below with any and all other options that are out there.  As I said earlier, I am learning from you all!  How will you use your Think Time this year?

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Five Ways to Value Relationships

Well-lived lives leave a legacy of both great results and great relationships.  This is why the “Do” Phase of Think Time prompts you to consider both when you make your plans.

Over a decade ago, Mark Miller, now VP of High Performance Leadership at Chik-fil-A, generously shared a new book he co-authored with Ken Blanchard with my classmates and myself in my small graduate Creativity class in Dallas.  His book, The Secret: What Great Leaders Know and Do contains a million servant-leadership gems.  I wholly recommend it.

Within the book, Miller lays out a model of what great leadership looks like.  He describes how great leaders “S-E-R-V-E.”   While I will encourage you to buy the book to discover the rest of the secrets, I will spoil one of them for you here.  The “V” in his model is that great leaders Value Results and Relationships.

This principle is a core theme in the Think Time 3DR Process.  Every time you mind-dump or brain-storm your to-dos, you are also encouraged to do the same for your to-bes…the activities that build into your soul and make you who you are.

The last thing you want to do is reach your goals…alone.  You want to bring other people along.  You were designed for relationships.   Psychologist Henry Cloud says that our brains were made to run on three things: “oxygen, glucose, and relationships.”

While there are millions of positive ways to value relationships, I have pulled together five quick and applicable ways that you can value relationships in your life today.

1. Initiate. People want to get together. Unfortunately, however, most people are reacting to circumstances around them and are not being proactive to initiate being together.  This is especially challenging in our digital age.  Be the one who initiates getting together with those in your life. If you are lonely, and even if you’re not, initiate regular connection with those in your life. Go to coffee. Go golfing. Catch a game. Do dinner.

2. Put Your Phone on Airplane Mode.  When you get together with other people, remember that our brains and bodies are wired for connection with others through eye contact and responsive communication.  Studies are showing that when we are distracted, we can misinterpret body language and intentions.  This misinterpretation can lead to inaccurate responses and decreased connection.  So, while you are in the presence of others, BE in the presence of others.

3. Don’t Gossip. When you have an issue with people in your life (which you will if you are living closely and honestly in connection with others) do your best to resolve your conflict directly with the other person.  In their seminal work Boundaries, Dr Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend describe a type of communication that is a relationship-killer.  It is called triangulation.  Essentially, when Person A and Person B conflict, triangulation occurs when Person A does not resolve directly with Person B.  Instead, he or she talks about the conflict to Person C.   While it can feel easier in the short run to get things “off your chest” and to have people “on your side,” it is better in the long run to honor the other person with timely, gentle, and direct communication with a focus on resolution.  Be careful not to gossip.

4. Forgive.  As you seek to resolve conflict with another person, at times the relationship will be fully restored.  At other times it will not.  Either way, it is imperative that you do the difficult work to forgive.  Unforgiveness is poison to your body, your soul, and your relationships. Do the hard personal and spiritual work to ask yourself if you are forgiving others when (not if) they wrong you. This inner work will pay amazing outer dividends.

5. Have Fun.  Do things you enjoy with the people in your life.  Life is moving fast.  If it feels like you don’t have time today to do what you love with those you love, you need to pause and consider your priorities.  If you don’t have time today, , you probably won’t have time tomorrow.  So, carve out the time today to prioritize having fun with people in your life.

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Questions to Ask Yourself to Get Out of a Slump

Sometimes, you feel down.

Or anxious.

Sometimes, your thinking is not sharp and your energy is low.

You are in a slump.

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You don’t know what is causing this.  You just know you have been at your best before, and you are not there now.  Whatever you are feeling, you know it can be better…because it has been better.

If your energy is low…your spirits down…your brain foggy…or you are stuck in high gear and you can’t seem to shift out of it, take a minute to ask yourself these following self-care questions.

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You may be surprised how these impact your life–more than you might think.

  1. Am I exercising vigorously regularly (30+ minutes 3-5 times a week)?
  2. Am I sleeping adequately (7.5 + hours each night).
  3. Am I eating healthily?
  4. Am I staying hydrated throughout the day–even during the busy part?
  5. Am I making time for relaxed, connecting time with friends.
  6. Am I playing and having fun?
  7. Am I making time for my spiritual life?
  8. Am I prioritizing what is important across all areas of my life?
  9. Am I disciplining my mind to think primarily about things that are inside my control–rather than spinning my mind on things outside my control?
  10. Am I intentionally forgiving people who have hurt me?
  11. Am I breathing deeply throughout the day?
  12. Am I saying “yes” and “no” freely?
  13. Am I thankful?

These will not solve every problem,* but making basic lifestyle and thinking habit changes will help you more than you might think.

What about you?  Do you have a story to share about how self-care helped get you out of a slump?  Please encourage others with your story below!

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*If you feel really “down,” “anxious,” or “foggy,” please talk to your doctor and/or counselor immediately.  This blog is not medical advice.

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