How are you? Really…

AdobeStock_112037430.jpeg “HOW ARE YOU?”

I wonder how you would answer that today.

When I’m chatting with people, the answer I hear to this question is usually: “Busy.”

If I don’t hear “Busy,” I will certainly hear “Tired.”

I mean- it’s epidemic.

We.  Are.  Fatigued.

We run through our days trying to squeeze in as much as possible.

Then, when we finally have the chance to do what matters most, often we can’t remember what that was supposed to be!

And if we do remember, we often are so tired we can’t even focus!

How do we avoid running from crisis to crisis?

How can we make traction, keep ourselves healthy and fresh, and still focus on what matters most?

That’s what Think Time is all about.  It’s about taking a small moment out of the crazy busy stuff of life

to pause…

to be…

to think.

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And then, to get right back into your real life–but this time with renewed vision, confidence, and a plan.

What does being Busy or Tired cost you?  Please reflect with us in the comments below.

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Think Time 3DR Process

We have a serious problem.  We are losing valuable time.  We have created an innovative process that helps people to dream big, get more time for what matters most, and become who they want to be.

Do you need more time for what you value most?

Find out if Think Time is a fit for you at think-time.com.

 

“I Have to Get It All Done Now!” – On Delegation

We are in the middle of a series of blogs answering a difficult question.

“When I have filtered my tasks through the dream and decide phases of Think Time, and I still have a pile of to-dos that must be done, what do I do?”

To conquer this familiar problem, we are going to use the above sentence: “I Have to Get It All Done Now!”

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Today, we are going to focus on the first word, “I.”

When we are facing an insurmountable pile of to-dos that are imperative, one way to cut it down is to ask yourself the following question:

What can only I do?”

When, you are overwhelmed with all you have to do, sift your list into two categories according to this question.

Keep the items that only you can do, and delegate the remaining to capable others.

This can be difficult if you are in crunch time and are not accustomed to delegating.  Here are some ideas, however, to get you started.

  • Is this actually someone else’s job?  Do I need to take a look at my internal boundaries and make sure that I am not enabling or rescuing someone?  Hand it over to them.  It’s theirs.
  • Is there someone, anyone, who can grow through completing this task?  (To see the value of this, check out Mark Miller’s new book Leaders Made Here.)
  • Can new technology and innovations help me get this done faster?
    • Can you use Fiverr.com to hire tasks to be completed for work or the TaskRabbit app for a home task?
  • Is there someone you can hire in addition to your current team?
    • Do you need to onboard a top-level assistant?  Try Belay Solutions for a smart Virtual Assistant to help you manage your work life and your personal life–scheduling travel arrangements, organizing your inbox, or finding the best dry cleaner that delivers in your area.

If you are like me, you are feeling a new sense of hope in your chest and a lightness on your shoulders.  Feeling like we have to do it all can really weigh heavily on us.

The next time, you sense, “I Have to Do It All Now,” just remember this one question, “What can only I do?” and delegate the rest!

If were able to delegate to someone else, what is the first thing you would get off your plate?

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Think Time 3DR Process

We have a serious problem.  We are losing valuable time.  We have created an innovative process that helps people to dream big, get more time for what matters most, and become who they want to be.

Do you need more time for what you value most?

Find out if Think Time is a fit for you at think-time.com.

 

Blog Highlights:

“What can only I do?” #delegation http://ow.ly/XGxx30iqc4S

Keep the tasks that only you can do, and delegate the rest. http://ow.ly/XGxx30iqc4S

Am I doing someone else’s work? #boundaries http://ow.ly/XGxx30iqc4S

Could someone else develop their skills by completing this task?  #delegate http://ow.ly/XGxx30iqc4S

Can new technology and innovations help me get this done faster?  http://ow.ly/XGxx30iqc4S

Is there someone you can hire in addition to your current team?http://ow.ly/XGxx30iqc4S

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“I HAVE TO Get It All Done Now!” – on Internal Locus of Control

Last time, we looked at “upping” our internal satisfaction with our accomplishments by starting with the idea that it all will not get done today.  When we start our days with this acceptance, our minds immediately get to work to prioritize what must be done.

Start with accepting the disappointment that it will not all get done.  Then, prioritize what is most important.

And, rest assured each day that what is accomplished is the most important.

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Let’s say, however, that you have completed the Dream and Decide phases of Think Time, and you legitimately have a pile of to-dos that has to get done immediately, or the consequences are dire.

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What do you do then?

The next several blogs will focus on answering this question–the Think Time way.  Just remember: #thinkbeforeyoustrive.

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To look at this situation strategically, we will use the above sentence as our guide.  “I Have to Get It All Done Now.”

In this blog, we’ll focus on the two little words “have to.”

For ten years, the words “have to” have been banned from our family’s vocabulary after reading a book called QBQ by John Miller.

This thought-changing little book dissects the two little words “have to” and unmasks all of their terribleness.

These two little words steal life, opportunity, success, happiness, and freedom from so many of us.

They immediately frame our experience as that of a victim instead of a person making choices that impacts our own lives

They render us powerless instead of powerful.

They make us less creative instead of more creative.

They steal our hope and offer instead feelings of despair.

 

But.

 

Only if we let them.

 

Whether we know it or not, we have a choice when we encounter the words “have to.”

When we find the words “have to” in our lives, we can render these powerful words powerless with one simple trick.  

Change “have to” to “choose to.”  

This one act puts you back in the driver’s seat of your own life, and allows you to evaluate your decisions from the right point of view.

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Your thoughts, feelings, attitudes, actions, and boundaries are “in your circle.”  They are your choice.  You begin to see yourself as responsible for your successes and your failures.

You begin to develop what psychologists call an “internal locus of control.”

When your language reflects this, your thoughts and actions follow.  Opportunities for change and growth appear where they were previously hidden.  Hope is restored.  Growth and change take up residence in your heart.

In Smarter Faster Better, Charles Duhigg writes, “People with an internal locus of control tend to earn more money, have more friends, stay married longer, and report greater professional success and satisfaction.”

No longer will you feel powerless when you have a pile of to-dos just staring at you.

The next time you feel “under the pile,” listen to your language and try this simple tweak.

Change your “have tos” to “choose tos” and see what happens.

Then, please let us know how it went in the comments below!

 

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We have a serious problem.  We are losing valuable time.  We have created an innovative whole brain process that helps people to dream big, get more time for what matters most, and become who they want to be.

Do you need more time for what you value the most?

Find out if Think Time is a fit for you at think-time.com.

“Up” Your Internal Satisfaction. Start with Disappointment.

So often, we lay our heads on the pillows with a ton of to-dos left over and feeling really crummy about ourselves.

This is no way to live every day!

How can we turn this around?

To up your internal satisfaction with life, start with disappointment.

That’s right.

Disappoint yourself first thing in the morning when you tell yourself, “I am not going to get it all done today.”

This can be very difficult for many of us who want to “do it all” and don’t like to tell ourselves “no.”

It feels like a big bummer at first, but when we let it sink it, we know it is true.

We simply cannot get everything done we want to do.

The good part is, however, when we realize we will not get it all done, our minds start working to discover what absolutely must be done…

These items are often fewer than we imagine, and we can accomplish many of them if we don’t get sidetracked by the rest of what we want to do or feel we “have” to do.

To up your internal satisfaction with your life…

  1. Accept that you will not get it all done today.
  2. Identify what absolutely must be done.
  3. Do these important things first.

With these simple steps, when you lay our head on the pillow each night, you will know that you focused on what matters most.

And, that feels good.

 

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p.s. To discover what to do when “it all” really must get done, stay tuned for next week’s blog.

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Think Time 3DR Process

We have a serious problem.  We are losing valuable time.  We have created an innovative process that helps people to dream big, get more time for what matters most, and become who they want to be.

Find out if Think Time is a fit for you at think-time.com.